I learned long ago that whenever a woman or women criticize/s a man or men to take a hard look at what it is they are projecting. For example, "if a guy isn't settled into a career and starting a family by 30 or 35 there is something wrong with them." Shockingly, this just happens to coincide with the female biological clock, doesn't it?
Another is that men tend to be "immature." Girls self-appoint themselves the arbitors of maturity around 14 and they are full-on manipulators with it by 17 and it continues on through adulthood. When any variation of the word "mature" comes out of a woman's mouth, my antannae go up and i start analyzing for 1) manipulation/shaming tactics and 2) for projection/covering of her own tracks.
You know that old saying "the only difference between men and boys are the price of their toys" that women love to bandy about? Well, if you look at it thru the prism of what I said above, basicly, children are a woman's toys. They will never see or acknowledge that, but just observe their behavior with their kids. A great deal of parenting for women, while fun for the kids, is "look at me with my kids." Kids are a source of attention. Kids can be a rationalization for anything.
Ever had a time consuming hobby with friends who got a girlfriend, got married, had kids, then the kids started growing up? It usually goes like this.....Friend is all about the hobby. Friend meets girl. Friend tries to include girl in hobby. Friend becomes less and less involved in hobby and more and more involved in "couples" activites, i.e. things she likes to do, particularly involving showing off to her friends, dinner parties, etc. Friend marries her and disappears completely during the honeymoon/newlywed period and pregnancy with the kid. After the kid is born, friend starts to have small segments of time for his own pursuits, usually late evening after the kid and wife go to bed early, before he has to go to bed. This continues until the kid is a toddler. If the kid is a boy, he gets busy with soccer and baseball practice, etc. If its a girl, he now has all the time in the world to do whatever he wants. As long as the wife knows that he isn't cheating, still has his job, and is going to be home to help with the kid in the morning and at dinner (not necessarily in that order) she could care less what he does, even those "immature" hobbies that were so awful when she required him as a source/object of attention before they had the kid. He is free to do what he wants because she is busy shopping for the kid and playing dressup, working on her nomination for sainthood in the process.
In short, don't read into it too much. They played with dolls as kids. They play with kids as adults. Child beauty pageants just being an extreme example. A friend of mine from college, a GUY, has always been a AW, himself. No surprise that he moved to LA after college and works in the publicity side of showbiz. Even less of a surprise that his toddler age kid is becoming a rather successful child actress.
