"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Why do I always get f***ed over? I'm so tired of it. I could explode

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Alle_Gory

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Desert Fox said:
What I'm trying to say is this "deservedness" mentality is BS and people need to drop it.
That's what I'm trying to say as well.
 

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Prom was fun. One of my friends whose a freshman offered to go with me the day before prom. I went with her and had fun. I told myself i wouldn't go with a freshman, but it was last minute and i thought i needed to go for the experience. Our group was great. A lot of my really close friends. I danced with a lot of girls and didn't just isolate myself to one. Overall it was a good night
 

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Jokerlsk said:
Let me put it this way. A couple of my friends who are really good with girls told me that they would have basically cussed this girl out. I didn't do that because i actually considered her feelings. Sure, i wanted to, but I told her what I posted instead. i could have been an ******* and i wanted to be that way, but I thought I rose above that.

The difference between the "old" you and me, bukowski, is that I do believe in myself and I honestly don't want to do what my friends do. I respect how you live your life. I just don't see the similarities that you see.

Cussing her out would've been much better than what you did. It would've been decisive and manly. What you're doing is trying to find a "third way". That's nigh impossible. Accept that you need to do what your friends do. Just fvck the girls. Then, dont let them fall by the wayside. Keep calling them. One of them will keep calling you back. Soon as you know it, you're in a relationship.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

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