Why do girls drop contact?

[The Decay of Meaning]

One girl I was messing around with for about 3 months. Then she started acting rude and uninterested, and I said it would be the best for the both of us if we didn't talk for a while. It's been one week, she hasn't made contact (and I don't plan on either if she doesn't take the initiative).

It's the same story with other girls. We meet a few times or many times, then they get uninterested.

And other girl act uninterested on messages etc. or don't reply at all back and when I see them in real life they're like touching me on the shoulder, hugging me and being soo friendly. What's that all about?

The "we had a great time but now I am just going to drop the contact with you"... It can be gradual or it can be like a switch. What's that all about?

 

[katatonia]

She wants YOU to call her first.

So keep holding out, and next time don't tell her that you are cutting off contact or explain why you are cutting off contact.

 

[WC2]

There are plenty of reasons why women drop contact, but most likely it's either because she's found someone else or because you're smothering her.

Mark my words, you should NEVER and I say NEVER give a girl an ultimatum by saying we shouldn't talk anymore. All it does is show her that you require some sort of response back from her. Of course you're hoping that she gets on bended knee and says

"Decay! I'm so sorry, I didn't mean to be rude to you. Don't stop talking to me, I need you!"

In reality, she probably just doesn't care. Her signs of acting uninterested should tell you that she's again, either found someone else or doesn't like you as a sexual being.

Instead of telling her you're going to stop talking to her, just do it. Don't be a jerk about it, just politely brush her off. You're not doing this to make her jealous; you're doing this because you don't have time for women who don't give you the time of day.

The more you filter these women out politely, the more your value goes up with other women. Other women see that you have high standards, yet you're not just trying to show off by ignoring women; you genuinely won't accept a woman unless she accepts you.

In return, more and more women will be WANTING to give you the time of day because they prize your time more and more.

Showing your anger when a woman becomes uninterested in you is the lowest form of male anger. It's basically telling everyone that you know she isn't interested, and you're going to sit there and b!tch about it. As a result, other women see your vulnerability and are immediately turned off for your need for attention.

 

[The Decay of Meaning]

Okay, thanks

 

[Ziniath]

Is this something that is consistently happening with you? Or just a once off? If it is consistently happening, then it has nothing to do with the women, and everything to do with how you are around women.

It sounds like they're interested in you in the beginning, but you're doing something that is creating a great disinterest as time continues.

How real are you with these women?
Are you being honest with yourself, and with them, when you are with them? Or are you constantly putting up a facade, pretending to be something you're not.

Just because the lie hasn't been "uncovered" doesn't mean that she can't smell it a mile off.

Perhaps go back and have a look at your actions, and how you've been around the women that have just "lost interest" and see if there's anything there.

 

[909pua]

One girl I was messing around with for about 3 months. Then she started acting rude and uninterested, and I said it would be the best for the both of us if we didn't talk for a while. It's been one week, she hasn't made contact (and I don't plan on either if she doesn't take the initiative).

It's the same story with other girls. We meet a few times or many times, then they get uninterested.

And other girl act uninterested on messages etc. or don't reply at all back and when I see them in real life they're like touching me on the shoulder, hugging me and being soo friendly. What's that all about?

The "we had a great time but now I am just going to drop the contact with you"... It can be gradual or it can be like a switch. What's that all about?

You're displaying AFC behavior. Once they see this, they will DEFINITELY, have a reason not to contact you anymore. I went thru it before and I almost lost my only plate right now.

 

[The Decay of Meaning]

Thanks.

I think the reason I do this is because I feel the need for confirmation that I'm a lovable guy. I was bullied for eleven years. Sometimes severely (to the point of being attacked by knife and being humiliated in front of the whole class), and people called me a lot of bad stuff. This makes me feel that I'm not worth very little, even though I know I'm a great guy.

I am not bullied anymore, and the last guy who did broke his fingers (I can still recall the sweet sound of justice, which was his fingers snapping), which made everyone happy at school because he was a ****.

Anyways, the crap I had to endure for eleven years have made me feel like I am not deserving. I have high-self confidence, but I guess low self-esteem. When girls wrap their arms around me, do stuff to me, I feel like my past is gone, that I have a fresh start, and that I am really a cool and lovable guy.

It's time to move on. It's in the past but it is my past. But how do I get past this? I don't care about feeling sorry for myself, I was a p ussy who didn't stand up for myself. But the emotions stick like a scar. I'm behind it mentally, but not emotionally.

I know this question of how to get past it sounds like Oprah, but I'm tired of having the emotions of that past dragging behind my life, which is really good now.

 

[Joe Stud]

at this stage in your game, whoever initiates contact LOSES. do not do it. also... read above DJ WC2... he's very smart