"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Why can I only hang out with girls and nothing more?

Deicide

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Why can I only hang out with girls and nothing more? I get girls' numbers, multiple of them so far, and hang out with them, but nothing ever occurs of it more than a friendly hug, what is my problem?
So far in the past month or so I've gotten 4 numbers off girls and they all work, but all it seems I can do is hang out with them. What am I doing wrong? I don't get laid nor do relationships occur from this.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Miguel

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Are you giving rocks, are they giving gold?

As you flirt and show intrest, a girl will either hand you IOIs and escalate. If she doesn't, then it means you're not giving her what she wants or is looking for, OR your missing the fact when she's giving you gold... and well things fall apart.
 

Deicide

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Ok, well I'm terrible at understanding subtle hints about girls, I can't ever tell if they're interested in me or not, and I'm afraid to make moves, I may get slapped if I do, so what should I do to get better at this? I've read plenty of the DJ Bible but still I'm no good with women and the future isn't looking good concerning them so far.
 

Jitterbug

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Just make a few moves and try to get slapped. At the very least, it makes fun stories to share with your friends.
 

Pathgen

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if your not comfortable she wont be. Think of it like your aura is affecting her. Girls are the non-dominate Gender. Take control and you have to do something totally innapropriate suddenly to get slapped unless its a *****. Most of the time they will just move your hand and say no or something.

How can you expect girls to want more than just hugs if you dont demonstrate that yourself. You have to be more than a friend to her. Make sexual comments. Dont be afraid only stop if she asks you directly too.

Once you show her what you want she will either cooperate or not. And if she doesn't so what you now know she aint interested. Wouldnt that be better than wondering if she is?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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DonutMan

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Happens to me all the time! I can get numbers very easily (especially now that I'm in grad school...80% female), just doesn't end up leading anywhere. I understand the problem is that I present myself as a friend to much and girls get comfortable with that. Gotta try to escalate it beyond that I guess.

I'm interested in this girl..call her..hang out..talk, and she tells me she want's to take me to a singles night. F*** that. I understand that I have to be more overtly sexual and you probably need to do the same.

I've just been worried about mixing professionalism, which is expected, with wanting to hook up with my classmates.
 

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why are you afraid to get slapped? I guarantee you will score cool points with your buddies if you get slapped. sure they will laugh at you but you will have their respect for having mad balls. if you try to kiss a girl and she slaps you, smile really big look her right in they eyes and say something like "I love a fiesty woman" or better yet if you can pull off a french accent do a pepe le pew " ahhh cher'i you pretend to resist me. kiss me love, after all vwhen you are a skunk, you learn to hold your breath for a long time!" chics love pepe le pew I dono why.
 
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