"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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"Why are we talking about me all the time?"

para

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Hi,
I have a problem. A girl that I'm dating asked me that question twice, in two different events. It happened to me with another girl in the near past?

I really like this girl, and she interest me, not just sexually. I listen to her because I enjoy learning about her. I'm not acting like a total AFC and approve everything she says. I tease and bust her balls, but I listen too and approve some of the things.
She is attracted to me, i have no doubt about it.

Is it a ****-test?
What should I say/do in this situation?


Thanks
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Cherokee

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There is a solution, just don't talk about her as much. DJ's will tell you not to talk about yourself too much cos thats what chicks do right?

gimme more info about this girl, are you two exclusive? or is it just a bit of dating fun?

Don't over analyze this as a sh!t test, shes probably p!ssed that you keeping talking about her sh!t if your dating properly let her get to know a bit about u. She'll start to think your real dull if you haven't got anything exciting to tell her!

I listen to her because I enjoy learning about her. I'm not acting like a total AFC and approve everything she says. I tease and bust her balls, but I listen too and approve some of the things
This is one BIG contradiction, the fact that you care about her reaction A LOT is im sorry to say this... AFC.
You gotta be hot/cold, good/bad, not just sit their and listen! make her laugh, give her emotions a twirl. I'll say this again, girls think with their emotions, so play with em a bit to get her tangled around your fingers. They love a man to take control, its human nature, but what your doing is letting her lead the convo.

So basically bro, time to start LEADING.
 

KontrollerX

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Just ignore it or tell her it must be because she's a very interesting person.

Its better than having some b!tch try and pry into your entire life history and psychoanalyze you.

Keep her talking about her and give us all some tips about how you do it.
 

DonGorgon

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Studying the fact that all lies contain fragments
she has things to hide,, but who cares we all do..
Women dont liked to be to exposed before they F you it removes sexual tension.
BUt what she is really saying is that you guys are talking too much and not doing enough physical interaction..ei. Fing.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Thank you all.

Cherokke, you wanted more info about her so:
In short, we both 17 and I know her from school. We've been flirting a lot and I decided to get further with this. We almost had 2 Kc's when our lips touch each other for 2 seconds, but on first one I was drunk and stinky (I was drinking and a stupid friend spilled vodka on me) and the second time I had a big beard from religious reasons and it hurt her (since than, I use hair conditioner on my beard lol).
I think that she feels kind of commitment to me, cause a JD natural friend of mine wanted to close her and she told him that she has something with me right now. Yesterday she sent me that she sent me message that she wanted to hug me cause miss me so much but she couldn't (I was in the middle of a lesson, she entered the class in order to ask my teacher something).
We leave far from each other, and we both have the roughest time in school right now so she study a lot cause she want to be a doctor and stuff... So I don't see her on this time and we talk on the phone instead.

She is very innocent girl (by doings. She kissed few times in her life, not thinking about something further.) and I'm not (since I got on to the pickup thing I had FC with a girl and Mc's with some others)


I'm trying to arrange meetings, but she always study in these stupid test period (she doesn't lie about it, she really study)...
 
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