"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Why am I so tired?

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Over the last couple of months I've had several days - maybe once every 10 days) when I wake up exhausted and things don't improve as the day goes on.

I exercise 4-5 days a week (cardio, weights and yoga

I get 7-8 hours of sleep every night.

my diet isn't perfect but it could be alot worse. I eat mostly fish, whole grains, and fruits (not enough veggies, admittedly). I also take a multi.

I'm not overweight. I'm 5'7 and I weigh 145 pounds.

What am I missing?
 
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Maybe too much exercise?

1 thing I recommend is buying a good sleep mask to block out the light when you sleep. There is a lot of light that comes into my room so I bought a sleep mask and I could tell the difference right away from sleeping with one and sleeping without one. I was having much better sleep and waking up much more energized in the morning.

They're cheap you should try one. Your room doesn't need to have a light to be blocked for you to give one a try. They do improve your sleep.
 

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f283000 said:
Maybe too much exercise?

1 thing I recommend is buying a good sleep mask to block out the light when you sleep. There is a lot of light that comes into my room so I bought a sleep mask and I could tell the difference right away from sleeping with one and sleeping without one. I was having much better sleep and waking up much more energized in the morning.

They're cheap you should try one. Your room doesn't need to have a light to be blocked for you to give one a try. They do improve your sleep.
This is possible. I live on a busy street and there's alot of noise, so while I go to bed with 7-8 hours before morning I don't always get the full allotment.
 

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Post your nutrition/supplementation info in a more detailed format... Sounds like you're eating good food, but my concern is that you may not be eating adequate amounts of it given your activity level.

Also, consider taking a high potency time-release B-complex. I work in critical care, an area where you always have to be vigilant, and can't really let your guard down. I can't afford to be tired. Although a lot of my co-workers use coffee to stay alert, I use B vits, as coffee just makes me anxious and gives me gut cramps a lot of the times.

Are you taking any EFAs like fish oil, or flax?
 

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Post your nutrition/supplementation info in a more detailed format... Sounds like you're eating good food, but my concern is that you may not be eating adequate amounts of it given your activity level.

Also, consider taking a high potency time-release B-complex. I work in critical care, an area where you always have to be vigilant, and can't really let your guard down. I can't afford to be tired. Although a lot of my co-workers use coffee to stay alert, I use B vits, as coffee just makes me anxious and gives me gut cramps a lot of the times.

Are you taking any EFAs like fish oil, or flax?
I don't really have a set diet so it's hard to quite pin down my daily calorie/vitamin intake...When I eat meat its usually seafood, sometimes chicken, almost never beef or pork.

As for supplements I take l-arginine, low-dose aspirin, and the multivitamin (GNC brand Mega Man).

I'm not taking any fish or flax oil, though I'd imagine there's fish oil in the...fish, that i eat.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Sounds like you eat really clean... this is good. However, clean food is typically not as calorie dense as more crappy stuff. You're probably getting a good amount of omega 3's from your fish, assuming you're eating a few pounds of salmon every week. However, I'd still suggest you supplement. I'd stack on a B-complex as well.

I'm assuming you're taking 80 mg ASA? You're 24... why aspirin now? Hx of CAD, HTN, obesity, DM2?

How many hours a week are you training? I still bet that you're not getting enough calories or protein. Write down a food journal for 2-3 days and post it. Consider supplementing w/ a meal replacement or even a mass gainer shake.

I don't have time now, but I'll post my diet and lifestyle factors. I'm around your height, but 40 lbs heavier, and don't do any cardio, yoga, etc.... maybe thats what you need to cut out haha!
 

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I take aspirin because.I have tetraology of Fallot, a congenital heart defect. I had a valve replaced about 15 months ago. That's why I started training in the first place.

It could well be the cause, though my cardiologist told me I'd be fine if I kept doing cardio.
 

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What interventions have you had for your TOF? I don't know a lot about the condition, but left untreated I know that there's issues w/ proper tissue oxygenation. Have you had a recent ABG done? What's your EF like on any recent echos that you've had?

Fatigue could simply be due to inadequate physiological reserve secondary to TOF... from hypoxemia, etc... I'm totally grasping at straws as I don't know anything about your management.

I'd suggest increasing calories and decreasing activity. Hell, I'm a competitive bodybuilder, and even I don't train 5x/week! Only time I would have to train so much would be for contest prep.
 

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What interventions have you had for your TOF? I don't know a lot about the condition, but left untreated I know that there's issues w/ proper tissue oxygenation. Have you had a recent ABG done? What's your EF like on any recent echos that you've had?

Fatigue could simply be due to inadequate physiological reserve secondary to TOF... from hypoxemia, etc... I'm totally grasping at straws as I don't know anything about your management.

I'd suggest increasing calories and decreasing activity. Hell, I'm a competitive bodybuilder, and even I don't train 5x/week! Only time I would have to train so much would be for contest prep.
I might indeed be over-training. I'll cut it down to 3 days a week.

If by interventions you mean treatment, as I mentioned I had surgery in February 2010 which replaced one of my heart valves. As part of the recovery process they had me do cardio twice a week. I've kept the cardio the same and added weights and yoga, though it was only recently that I started working out 5X a week.

Without treatment the most common effect of TOF is death, at least in the long run. In the short term it can cause poor circulation, shortness of breath, and excessive strain on the heart. They've only recently began treating it in a serious way, so they don't really know how effective treatment is in the future.

I'm due for a checkup with my cardiologist, so i'll check back when I hear what she says.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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What kind of heart halve? Synthetic, animal, lab grown from your own body??
 

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Alle_Gory said:
What kind of heart halve? Synthetic, animal, lab grown from your own body??
From a cow.
 
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