"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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which approach is best?

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i met this chick about a month ago and bumped into her again last week and talked for a while but i didn't listen to my gut instincts to leave while things were good and ended up not p*ssing off and stuck around too long and she got annoyed.

basically i did very well up until that point and turned into an afc the last 5mins of the time i was with her..

what would you suggest is the best way to approach her next time i see her?

1. go straight up to her and chat but be brief and leave.

2. say hey from a distance and wait for her to come up to me later (if she does)

3. smile from a distance so that she knows you acknowledge her but dont go up to her and talk and make her wonder why he's not coming up to chat like he did before.

1. could backfire if i dont do it well cos she might have in her head 'oh no hes going to come up to me and disturb me again for too long' so will be on the defensive..

what is the best way really to handle situations like this?

I read somewhere on here that its better to act interested at first then back off and play it cool to make her wonder why and be a challenge rather than her frigging lapdog everytime you see her.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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how much should i ease up?

given that i came on strong last time i really need to cool it and be more of a challenge.

1 is good.. but given the way i left it last time its risky cos her first thought would be 'oh no he's going to disturb me again..' instead of 'why hasn't he come up to me and talk like he usually does?'
 
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i'd say any one of those 3 would be right but it really depends on the situation and circumstances.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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2 and 3 are not approaches.

If you do #1 and she does not respond well, leave and find a girl who can appreciate your company. ;)
 
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would not 2 and 3 work better because it makes you more of a challenge?

i.e. why isn't he coming up to me to talk like he ususally does?
 
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