"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Where were YOU a year ago to this day?

Vice

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This thread is dedicated to help you self-reflect on how far you've come since last year. Give a few details on what your life was like back than, and how it is now, and what you think it'll be like next year.

Think of this as kind of a writing assignment.


2007

January-April

As for myself, last year I was the average nerdy guy. I wore glasses in the morning and put contacts on during the middle of the day. I imagine that I would eventually have "gotten it", because I was beginning to do things that I believed would attract girls. I bought my first bottle of cologne a few months before April, a 3.3 oz bottle of Ralph Lauren Polo Black. I wore it all the time, sometimes overspraying it. I later acquired a bottle of Davidoff Echo for free. My style of dress wasn't good at all; jeans were too large and baggy, and I always wore t-shirts. I was a dork. I remember coming to school one day with a button-up shirt and getting compliments and realized that I should dress better! So the next day I came in with a bright-ass canary yellow polo... that was a bad idea. I looked like a moron.

I had no muscles, I was beginning to work out, but I was still kind of scrawny. I was into an extreme sport my other friends were into, and I was horrible because I was weak. I only did the sport because my friends did. That's an example of following the wrong crowd.

I always made the class laugh with my humor, and I would flirt with girls without even knowing it. My hair was always unkempt, and I finally started to wash it every morning to make it less wild during the day. Everyone thought I got a haircut whenever I took the time to wash it in the morning lol

Now the worst part... I only really knew two girls. By the time I met them, I had just began watching David DeAngelo's material in April. I tried using C&F but came off as an *******. I teased the girl by taking her phone, and she got on top of me, and went crazy... with anger. I got the **** slapped out of me. Later I found out that she liked me. Whatever.

May-August

During the summer, I began devouring David DeAngelo's videos. I didn't have a car, so going places was a major problem. But I had my bike, and I would ride about four miles to the bus stop, or six miles to work and then a mile or two to the bus stop to take a twenty minute ride to the mall, where I would practice things like eye contact. My first few days, I actually had these extremely attractive girls try to give me one of their friend's phone number. I liked her, but I took not looking needy way too seriously at first and didn't take the number. Partly because I thought it was fake. I also had a few times where girls would approach me, but I would get too nervous to talk to them.

September-October

That problem persisted to October, when at a school football game I would be opened by a group of girls as I was walking, and I would ignore them. By October, school was back in and my style of dress was improving much more quickly. I actually opened a set, and one of the girls I talked to turned out to like me alot. But she was very shy, and all the guys were pressuring me and her, and things got weird. I'm pretty sure that she was shy because of how sexy I was that night :)

I'm kind of tired right now, I'll finish this later. I'm using this thread as kind of a diary, since this is the first and probably last time I'm going to record this. It'll be good to be able to read this in the future.
 
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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jacob

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heh, this is good my brother. I kept a diary every since 1999 when the mother of my kids left me and wrote till July of last year when I got settled again with a woman that moved in with me and then she started reading my journals, so I stopped logging. Gonna start just because of this thread. it's really theraputic and you can see just how unique your life is. Great idea
 

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Last year i was very unconfident and lazy. I was on my ass 24/7 playing video games. Now i go to the gym trying to better myself everyday and im more confident than ive ever been. thats it for me :)
 
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