Where it all begins

[Enigma2517]

The first thing to do is to change your mind about the meaning of this personal exposure. Think in terms of adventure instead of ego humiliation. If you can't think that way, you might as well throw passion and romance right out the window, because your anxieties will prevent anything glorious from happening with anyone. The risks of exposing your feelings are intrinsic to dating, courtship, romance, passion, mundane and cosmic sex, and devoted commitment.

Why the hell am I such a wuss? Anybody have an herbal formula for making your balls drop? Haha kidding

But honestly, I tried searching and I found some excellent techniques. But what I really need to do is just stop being so depressed and wimpy. Everyday is just a living hell I can't stand. And of course all my friends have hott girls they bang. That helps.

Please...anybody?

 

[Balanced]

Hey, I recomend reading the bible. Work on self improvement and realize you stumbled upon something alot of men haven't. Take advantage of that and learn it all.

 

[Jerky Boi]

Dang man, you sound like the 16 year old version of me. It will get better..read up on the Bible, and don't be afraid to ask questions. It's your life, and you coming here is just the beginning. You've already made the notion that you want to improve just by coming here. You have to take those baby steps though. Improvement is everything. I wish you the best of luck

 

[Izo]

If you think you're a wimp, work out or go run, that should help. What you have to do is determine WHY you are so depressed and what you can do to change it. You should also change your thinking. Every day should be a better day because you are a better person with every experience.
If you want to increase your confidence, maybe you should try talking with those girls that your friends are banging. Have fun with them, that might boost your confidence, but don't lose any friends in the process.
And there must be SOMETHING you can do that takes your mind off of depression. Anything that keeps you occupied. If you don't try to cure yourself of your depression, it won't get any better. Read something funny, or watch something funny. Rent the movie "Airplane" or "Rat Race." Funny sh1t man. And don't forget to take RISKS. Not stupid risks, but do something new/different every day. And read "Weapons of Mass Seduction" by Fingers. it's super fkn long but it's good sh1t. Hope this helps.

 

[Vincent]

Originally posted by Enigma2517
But what I really need to do is just stop being so depressed and wimpy.

The First step is admitting you have a problem.

The second step is understanding the problem:
Depression, this can be caused by a poor self image, you must look at yourself long and hard, Figure out things you dislike about your self, along with, and more importantly, things you do like about yourself. Once you have found the things you do like learn to emphasize those points. And The things you don't like learn to change, one of which is your:
"Wimpy"ness, this can be caused due to a feeling of insecurity, this is often from judging yourself on the appearance of others, hence your next comment.

Originally posted by Enigma2517
Everyday is just a living hell I can't stand. And of course all my friends have hott girls they bang. That helps.

Who cares who your "friends" bang, are they you? No. Have they gone through the same things you have? No. Everyones different, and trust me, you're better than them. You know you are, why won't you just admit it? Who cares if they've had sex, "Its really not that different". So why do you place such an emphasis on it? Don't, it will help. Emphasize your strong points, and look at their flaws, whatever you can do to get a better self image.

What I did, after reading Pooks - Be a Man!, is i went in the mirror, looked at myself, and just sat there saying "I'm the man, I'm the great catch, I'm prince mother ****ing charming, every girl wants me, everybody loves me" I did this for a good half hour and after a while I began to believe it, No not that, instead i began to realize the truth(That the matrix has you, lol j/k), but that i was all those things. I was just always to ashamed of myself. After realizing i shouldn't compare myself to other people, i'm not them, hell i'm better than they are.

We've all been where you are, living in a literal hell, but you know what helped us? The site, the forums, the bible, and most of all each other. When we've been down, its a lot easier talking to people who understand what we're going through. Plus we can put blinders over our eyes, and the people here have helped take them away, shown us an answer we couldn't see, even though we realize how obvious it was.

That is the joy of this site. Welcome I hope you enjoy the journey as much as we have. Because its more than a site, its a journey to the rest of your life.

--Vincent