where is my mistake ?

[Zenboy93]

Hey guys, I've got a serious issue which is confusing as hell...
I've met this girl during vacations the day before her departure, everything went well : Kino, talking and all.
When she left she said she felt bad that she met me the last day, and so I asked her if she'd like that we get to see each other since we live in the same city and she accepted.
Anyways during the date I did what I had to do : Kino, Ball busting and good convos.
She even came over my house and stayed up 'til 6 am.
But when I tried to kiss close it, she looked at me and said she can't !
I mean what the hell could've gone wrong !? She was responding positively to all my stuff !

 

[DonJuan_DeRosco]

She even came over my house and stayed up 'til 6 am.

What the hell were you doing the rest of the time?

Hesitation leads to masterbation as someone once said.

 

[Zenboy93]

Well we were watching a movie (Horror) and I've taught her how to play guitar too ... when she was leaving she looked at me and so I decided to lean in for the kiss but then she backed off ... I'm afraid I went too fast and I don't know if I can repair my mistake :s

 

[scribblec]

6 hours is not too fast at all


if i had built enough comfort to have her bk at my place then 6 hours is way too long tbh

 

[Zenboy93]

So is there any solutions or should I just let it be ?

 

[Zenboy93]

Bumb

 

[PDubb75]

It's talked about on here a bit, but probably not as much as it should be. You guys need to stop thinking the kiss should be at the end of the date. If I were you, I would have gone for the kiss during the horror movie. It's possible in those MANY hours there, she wanted you to kiss her multiple times, and you didn't. So, by the time she was leaving, you had missed your chance.

Next step, go for another date as if there is no issue. But don't wait until the end of the date to make your move. If you can get her back to your place, it should be easy. Just do yourself a favor and don't act like you are tip-toeing around trying to "repair" your mistake. She will sense it.

 

[thevilittletroll]

^^^ right on! if you dont pull the trigger on her the next time you hang out she will see you as beta, and will lose attraction. if that happens she will start to flake and you may never get another opportunity. you also might want to find out if she has a boyfriend.

 

[Zenboy93]

No she hasn't got a boyfriend so I can't worry about that part, but just to add a detail : She told me (Girl 1) That her friend thinks ( Girl 2) that Girl 1 likes me.
My friend told me she might be hinting something so I don't know.

What I understand from you is that ask her out on a 2nd date, and try to make the move as soon as possible ?

 

[PDubb75]

What I understand from you is that ask her out on a 2nd date, and try to make the move as soon as possible ?

Not as soon as possible. You just need to recognize that there are times before the end of the date that are more "fitting" to make a move. Don't jump on her the second she gets in the car. But sitting next to you, scared during a horror movie, hiding behind your shoulder? Much more fitting for a kiss than HOURS later as shes walking out the door.

 

[Zenboy93]

Oh I see ! Well I'm glad I didn't completly ****ed up my thing haha ! Anyways thanks for the advice ! I'll make sure I won't mess it up again.