I gotta admit this is definatley the greatest site in the history of the www. I've read a good amount of it..but still have one slight problem. I'm seeming to be getting the hang of the idea of being a dj..but theres one problem. I can't seem to find these girls. like i do go to bars and clubs and stuff every now and then..the occaisional party..but i can't seem to find my type of girl. I'm a big fan of the "girl next door type" i'm all about it, and just coming out of a 2 year relationship, almost marriage, i'm having a hard time finding the right kinda girl for me. i don't like sluts or easy girls or bar hoppers and alcy's..just nice sweet girls who are in it for the long haul or at least more of a purpose then a one nighter. can ya help? where are some good places i can look to find someone? any other special advice? thx guys much appreciated....
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
WHere are these girls
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
WestCoaster
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Places to look
If you live in a large metro area there should be someone for you. If you live in a small town, you will have some limitations.
As you can tell from my posts, I would highly recommend foreign women or women of foreign descent who have not been corrupted by our fast food/instant gratification and mean-spirited culture.
I, too, like the girl next door type. You'll probably find them at the gym, a coffee shop, night classes, bookstores or the library, on bike or running trails, or some clubs and groups. You most likely won't find the high-class, educated woman lurking around a club or bar, especially not on a regular basis. The high quality ones are too busy improving themselves.
The stereotype is to go to the bar. The reality is you won't often find high quality there.
Look for places where mentally and physically healthy women would hang out.
If you live in a large metro area there should be someone for you. If you live in a small town, you will have some limitations.
As you can tell from my posts, I would highly recommend foreign women or women of foreign descent who have not been corrupted by our fast food/instant gratification and mean-spirited culture.
I, too, like the girl next door type. You'll probably find them at the gym, a coffee shop, night classes, bookstores or the library, on bike or running trails, or some clubs and groups. You most likely won't find the high-class, educated woman lurking around a club or bar, especially not on a regular basis. The high quality ones are too busy improving themselves.
The stereotype is to go to the bar. The reality is you won't often find high quality there.
Look for places where mentally and physically healthy women would hang out.
akindofblue
Don Juan
Go to a non-pop music festival (e.g. jazz or bluegrass), go to an outdoor biking trail, go shopping and healthfood grocery stores, maybe try reading in an interesting cafe. Churches are great, especially ones with contemporary-type services that get a lot of young people.
In a nutshell, go to places that demand a little concentration. Where people go to improve themselves, as others stated. You're not going to find trash at a place where people come to grow.
In a nutshell, go to places that demand a little concentration. Where people go to improve themselves, as others stated. You're not going to find trash at a place where people come to grow.
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
TooColdUlrick
Master Don Juan
i don't get this...girls are everywhere. bookstores, colleges, coffee shops, malls, gyms, volunteer groups, night classes, waitresses, etc...
unless you live in BumFvck Wyoming or Alaska.
unless you live in BumFvck Wyoming or Alaska.
Genghis Juan
Senior Don Juan
TooColdUlrick has it right. You have to eliminate the mentality that a night out has a sole purpose of meeting women. If you do the bootcamps, you realize that women are in fact everywhere around you. Thinking "out of the box" like that will allow you to meet women in places other than the nightclub/bar scene.
You should never exclude anyplace in particular, like a bar or a nightclub, because you may meet a good girl who just happens to go there with friends, who often doesn't frequent these places. But I will say, that nightclubs and bars are really not great places to meet the "girl next door".
You should never exclude anyplace in particular, like a bar or a nightclub, because you may meet a good girl who just happens to go there with friends, who often doesn't frequent these places. But I will say, that nightclubs and bars are really not great places to meet the "girl next door".
good points..fyi tho..i do live in a smaller canadian city with just under 70,000 ppl...most older..and the closest city is 3-4 hours away and not much bigger..then there's toronto about 8 or 9 hours from here..hehe..so ya..not a very big selection of peeps
If you are looking for the good girls, its best to find them at places where good girls hang. They go to music fests, they volunteer, work at hospitals (any helping profession tells me the girl has a good heart), or even church.
locrian
Don Juan
I've met women from dancing, not club dancing but anywhere there's swing, lindy, tango, balboa, cha cha, salsa, etc. Also just recently I tried the speed dating thing and have had some success - if nothing else, it's a good way to practise talking with lots of women at one time. Those lucky ba$*&tards in college have it so easy, universities are crawling with unmarried undamaged women! I'm almost 30 and it does get harder to find quality, so please everybody keep the ideas coming!
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I went shoppin for clothes today for the first time in a long time, and clothes stores are definitely the place to be if you want to find pretty girls. I saw them everywhere. Although, it is really hard to meet them. The best way to meet a girl at a clothes store is just to end up next to her in the checkout line. Two good stores are kohls and goodys
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Just don't look online!
The only thing you will find are horny guys!
The only thing you will find are horny guys!
just a lil side note
just wanted to mention how powerful the info on this site is. despite my hopes to go pick up a good girl and all that..i'm still a big fan of goin to bars/clubs and what not..jsut for whatever. well last night me and a couple friends went and for the first time i decided to use some of the stuff i've learned here. now normally i'm still one of those shy guys with this head down avoiding ppl (just getting out of a 2 year really serious relationship..so still pretty shaky about things)..but not last night...somehow i was cool, calm and very positive. with in maybe 10 minutes of being there i got a pretty cool chicks number and a date for the rest of the night. bought eachother a few drinks and got a couple kisses during the night. will we ever see eachother again? maybe? ... point is because of this site, i realize there's a whole new way to live/act when it comes to women... and i'm no do jaun himself by any means, average looking but decent enough guy i guess i am..i guess its more about stile and personality..that i've learned from here, and for the first time in a long time...i think i did alright.....thanks to all who keep this site goin.......
just wanted to mention how powerful the info on this site is. despite my hopes to go pick up a good girl and all that..i'm still a big fan of goin to bars/clubs and what not..jsut for whatever. well last night me and a couple friends went and for the first time i decided to use some of the stuff i've learned here. now normally i'm still one of those shy guys with this head down avoiding ppl (just getting out of a 2 year really serious relationship..so still pretty shaky about things)..but not last night...somehow i was cool, calm and very positive. with in maybe 10 minutes of being there i got a pretty cool chicks number and a date for the rest of the night. bought eachother a few drinks and got a couple kisses during the night. will we ever see eachother again? maybe? ... point is because of this site, i realize there's a whole new way to live/act when it comes to women... and i'm no do jaun himself by any means, average looking but decent enough guy i guess i am..i guess its more about stile and personality..that i've learned from here, and for the first time in a long time...i think i did alright.....thanks to all who keep this site goin.......