Whenever I cross a bridge, a new one appears..

[evolvingnerd]

hi guys
long time no post

i've been working on getting my life together, focusing on my job, trying to get some good hobbies together, but i think im' losing sight of the bigger picture

i have two questions: first off, im starting to grow a need to show off to the MALES i know, of how good i'm getting with women, and i'm starting to feel the need to mock other males and reveal how lame they are compared to me. whenever there are women present, i'm acting like i want to, and things go smoothly, but when it's just me and a buddy or two, these demons reveal themselves. it's not that i want to make them feel bad, but i want them to know how much better i'm doing, as they still think of me as a fellow loser.

2nd, over the next few weeks at work, i'll be dealing with people in a slightly different way than what i'm used to. i'll be seeing large amounts of people for short periods of time. i'll be seeing ppl continuously throughout the day, but only for a few minutes tops. (i'm only really interested in how to interact with the girls who take my fancy). how can i go about developing my self confidence, and any other skills, and hell, even getting a few numebrs

thanks as always, for the great help

 

[Dukester]

i can relate with ya about the first question. I too have the need to want to show off and let everyone know how much better I am.

I go too far though, too far to the point where everyone thinks I'm a stuck up, arrogant, ****y azzhole.

It's true that I am ****y (and funny), and sometimes an azz. But that's how I am now, and people are going to have to get used to it- they want the old me when they were able to use me as a doormat- no more. I am a DJ.

the second question:
i cant offer much advice, because it has already been given. I have 2 posts about confidence, and there is plenty in the bible about confidence, numbers, etc....
Just do a search- but remember, that you have to believe in yourself before others can.
Hope that helps a lil

 

[DeathDealer]

Originally posted by evolvingnerd
hi guys
long time no post

i've been working on getting my life together, focusing on my job, trying to get some good hobbies together, but i think im' losing sight of the bigger picture

i have two questions: first off, im starting to grow a need to show off to the MALES i know, of how good i'm getting with women, and i'm starting to feel the need to mock other males and reveal how lame they are compared to me. whenever there are women present, i'm acting like i want to, and things go smoothly, but when it's just me and a buddy or two, these demons reveal themselves. it's not that i want to make them feel bad, but i want them to know how much better i'm doing, as they still think of me as a fellow loser.

2nd, over the next few weeks at work, i'll be dealing with people in a slightly different way than what i'm used to. i'll be seeing large amounts of people for short periods of time. i'll be seeing ppl continuously throughout the day, but only for a few minutes tops. (i'm only really interested in how to interact with the girls who take my fancy). how can i go about developing my self confidence, and any other skills, and hell, even getting a few numebrs

thanks as always, for the great help

you're already doing that by whining about yourself.

 

[evolvingnerd]

not following what ur saying deathdealer

anyone else?

 

[Skweints]

The answer is right there in your face, but you keep on missing it. Instead of getting people to respond directly to you, go read some other posts... perhaps even the DJ Bible. There's plenty of information in there to answer your questions.

As far as your first question, well... paragraph since there was no question, you need to be careful with that. I learned a lesson HARD when one of my "so-called" buddies ****ed me over in many promising situations with about 3 or 4 different females. I did the same thing as you, and I guess, because even though he thought he was a pimp, deep down, he wasn't getting any action, he took it personally, and tried his best to **** me over. Eventually the truth came out with one of the girls I was going to hook up with, when she came up to me and started asking me whether this stuff my friend was telling her behind my back was true (apparently she found out he was lying to her face.) Your safest bet is to keep your mouth shut around your buddies and act like no big deal... when they start seeing you becoming super sucessful around women, they'll become intrigued and want to learn how... but if you rub it in their face that you're awesome with women, they're gonna get annoyed with you, and disregard everything you say anyways, whether or not you're getting laid everynight. Always remember, bro's before ho's, buddy... they'll be the ones who got your back when a girl ****ed you over.