When to push back on a woman/say something, when to act non-chalant/no contact

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

_-_WOLFSBANE_-_

Don Juan

Feb 8, 2024

One thing I am struggling with is knowing the difference between when you push back on a woman for bad behavior/**** test or non compliance vs when to remain nonchalant or even remove attention/pull away/show her no contact with you actions.

Does anyone have any insight on this? I would greatly appreciate it. This is something I struggle with. I am a direct person and what I am trying to figure this out cause I don't want to come across as "emotional" or "salty" or "butthurt" etc..

What are the general guidelines here?

Thanks ahead of time.

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.