"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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When the band is too loud to hear yourself think

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Have you ever had a golden opportunity to talk to a girl but the band is so loud that you know she won't even be able to hear you if you say something to her? I've never been someone who could pick up a girl without saying a word. Anyhow I broke the 3 second rule tonight when one of the prettiest girls in town smiled at me because the band was too damn loud.

What do you do in that situation? Scream in her ear with your pickup line?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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bigneil said:
Have you ever had a golden opportunity to talk to a girl but the band is so loud that you know she won't even be able to hear you if you say something to her? I've never been someone who could pick up a girl without saying a word. Anyhow I broke the 3 second rule tonight when one of the prettiest girls in town smiled at me because the band was too damn loud.

What do you do in that situation? Scream in her ear with your pickup line?
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From my experience (limited) try to isolate and get her out of the noise. When the band is so loud you can't hear, you can't expect to make any progress.
 
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I agree with DCC. Maybe point to your half-empty drink and the bar and signal for her to come to the bar area with you for another drink. She smiled at you, so you had a good IOI to start with.



Off topic, I want to caution the other guys against approaching girls that are too close to the stage and look like they are drooling over some band member(s). It's like trying to game a girl that is hanging out by the DJ (disc jockey) booth at a club. It's a waste of time; her eyes are elsewhere. This doesn't apply the OP's situation because she showed clear interest in him.
 
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