I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
MAN ur over thinking this so much .. I wouldn't wait too call her that long. Just do it and set something up if she is still interested. Don't worry about being too eager. Worry about not being too clingy, get the date set up and be your best self when you go out with her. Don't do much of that textin back and forth bvll****, show her you are a busy man.Lostsoul85 said:
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
In my opinion, there is not a perfect time to contact a woman. If she is interested in you then regardless of what she is doing, when she has access to her phone she will reply to you and agree to a date. Woman are always busy but they will go out of their way and find time if they are interested in you. If the interest level is low then she might not reply or flake on you and I would brush it off and move on.Lostsoul85 said:
right, exactly why I said to set something up tomorrow afternoon, she'll probably be getting up around 1 or 2 and getting some coffee anyway.CaptainSaveAh0 said: