"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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When parent disapprove

Ladiesssman

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I know many of you don juans are into macking and getting many women. I'm seeking advice for those who are or have been in ltr whos parents disapproved their relationship. What do you do? How do you handle it.

We love each other. But our whole family is against our relationship. What do you do?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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sfalexi

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I was in a relationship like that. Unfortunately, she lived with her father and it looks like he got the best of her because after a year she ended up breaking up with me. She never gave me a reason (which sucks, no closure), but I suspect that the various voicemails I overheard while she checked them (consisting of him yelling over the phone of "What are you doing with him? He's not right for you. I don't know what got into you." etc etc) had a lot to do with it.

I guess all you can do is hope that she doesn't get influenced by her parents like my ex did.

Alexi
 

Eternal

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Originally posted by Ladiesssman
I know many of you don juans are into macking and getting many women. I'm seeking advice for those who are or have been in ltr whos parents disapproved their relationship. What do you do? How do you handle it.

We love each other. But our whole family is against our relationship. What do you do?
While this might now work for everyone, I just looked at my parents squarely and told them "I'm dating her, not you. Now excuse me, I have a date," and walked out the door before they could say anything.
 

diablo

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There's very little you can do to change your parents perceptions of the person - what is it about the relationship that troubles them so much? Another thing - I realize that having parental approval is nice, but you're 30 years old. You have many more options availiable than someone who's, say, 15. I'm assuming you live on your own; you don't have to have her coming over to your parents house on a regular basis... and even you don't have to go to your parents unless you want to. Whether you bring her or not when you do visit is up to you. If you love the girl so much, don't let your parents pettiness bother you. Like Eternal said, it's your relationship, not theirs.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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