"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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When is the right time? Is there a right time?

Vincent Freeman

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Okay, so I met this Hb the other day at a coffee shop (on one of my pickup attempts) and after shooting the sh*t for a little, I decided to go for her #. As expected from you dj's I called 3 days after I got her digits and we decided to meet up and go to the gym (since we both go to the same gym). All went well, and to make a long story short, we ended up meeting again 3 days after to go out with my friends along with her friends. Although neither of us got drunk, we spent most of the night dancing, talking, and of course using good kino. However, we did not kiss, just simply because I like to make her wonder and also to carry it on until the breaking point. Now, here's the part I am unclear about. When do you all recommend to go that extra step? Should I keep on holding off until things get hotter than they are, or should I go for it soon before her imagination makes her think other things? Like I said, she definetely follows and even starts the kino, but I also don't want her to get uninterested. Let me know what you dj's think I should do.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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If you wait too long to kiss her then she'll think you're not attracted to her or have no balls.

Kiss her already. You can hold off on the sex part if you want to drive her nutts.
 
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