"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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When is it okay to hang out next with her?

toddC

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Now this is just something I've been wondering about. If I get wiht some random girl at a party on a friday night, should I want to hang with her the next night? I usually don't text/call the next day but what if they text/call me to hang out...Do I say I'm busy or do I hang out with them?

What about if its a girl that isn't random that you've both been wanting each other for soem time now?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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The Master Disaster

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Originally posted by toddC
Now this is just something I've been wondering about. If I get wiht some random girl at a party on a friday night, should I want to hang with her the next night? I usually don't text/call the next day but what if they text/call me to hang out...Do I say I'm busy or do I hang out with them?

What about if its a girl that isn't random that you've both been wanting each other for soem time now?
you say your busy. Give them the impression that you party on friday and you party on saturday.
 

Damian

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I'll agree with the Master Disaster on this one. I've found an excellent "busy" tactic that should work in your situation.

If a girl texts, IMs, or calls you asking you to hang out, look at your clock. I usually go by the three-hour rule, but this tactic requires lots of willpower. If the time she sets is within the next three hours, I say that I have already made plans with my friends and that she should tell me more in advance next time. Then I call up some of my buddies and we all go off to chill somewhere. It's all a big frame test reversal. Usually women just want to have your listening ear or to use you as emotional support. I've trained my girls to follow the three-hour rule. Plus, it gives me plenty of time to finish whatever I'm doing, and prepare to look my best.

-Damian
 
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