"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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When do you wait for her to come to you?

DjBoogie

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I see people saying you have to be persistent, but how do you know when to back off and let her come to you?

I met this girl at a party and she was really into me, she got my number as she was leaving, that was the only time I saw her in person(3 weekends ago). We've been texting and I tried to hang out with her 2 times. 1. she was at a party and asked me to come but I couldn't get there until late and she had already left(2 weekends ago), 2. I invited her to a party(last weekend) and she was going to come, I hung up to get her directions and when I called her back she said her mom called her and flipped out or something and told her she has to go home but she said would text me the next day. Next day rolls around and nothing, haven't talked to her since...(Idk wtf this **** is with her mom, she is 18 though....)

She never ignores my texts(she is in school while i'm off work so I can't call) and she seems like she wants to hang out and said we will soon. At first she was texting me first all the time, now she never texts me first but always responds when I text(maybe once or twice a week), should I keep pushing forward as long as she reacts positive, or back off and wait for her to come to me? My thought is if I don't make it happen it might not, which would suck if she just wanted me to lead(which I need work on).

Also, with my work schedule the weekends are the only time I can really do anything social, which is really frustrating.

Thanks
 

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terran2k

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stop texting; next time call her, tell her where to meet, when and where. yeah and I think she used her mom as an excuse btw. but who knows.
 

Kirro

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Stop texting & only initiate contact via phone calls. Texting is a woman's territory & its an easy way to get stuck in the FZ.

Try using your weekends to meet other chicks. You're focusing too much of your time on this one girl & she knows that & is feeding off the attention making it easier for some other unknown guy to pork her.
 

sharkbeat

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She lost the interest. It is time to move on. She replied to your text doesn't mean she's still interested. Some women respond to all her guy friends' texts. If you are still curious, call her, and set up a date. This time not to a party but just a small lunch. If she bails out again, look for an IgetIt! post in what to do.
 
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