"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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a girl called me last night at around 11. she asked where I was and I told her that I was at a party at a friends house. she asked who was there and I named a few guys and said that theres a few girls here too. I said that she could come down. she said that she didn't want to because there are other girls there (female competitiveness anyone?) so instead she told me to come to her friends house which was just down the street. I could tell that she wanted it bad. she told me several times that I really should go to her friends place. but remembering what I've read here, I didn't want to appear desperate so I told her that I was having a good time with my friends and that she could either join me at the party that I was at or call me back later. she said that she'd call me back later, but never did.

would you have done the same thing in my situation?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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spider_007

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why would you refuse a bootey call???????(unless she is a dog)

great, your not desperate!!!!!
and you didn't get laid.
 

brenbaus

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Read the bible, but if I was you, I would have stayed at the party for a little while longer, and then gone to her house; the key is not giving her EXACTLY what she wants. I.E. in your situation, she says "Come over to my house" I would have said "Well, Im having a good time at the party right now, and it would be really cool if you would come." and then she says "no, you come over to my house" so I would say "I'll think about dropping by after the party"

This would be doing what you want, and at the same time, not seeming desperate, becuase you did not go to her house when she told you, but rather when you felt like getting there. This would make her happy, and not make you seem desperate, because if you didn't stop by her house, too bad!
 

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ARE YOU CRAZY!!!

Yes you are but i love your balls man

she was basicly saying "im at my friend house and im wet and horny so is my friend so can you come over here and satidfy us both WE WILL SWALLOW" and your like "Nah im having to much fun". Next time go down to her friends place dont RUSH DOWN or you will look desperate just say "yeh the party is getting kind of boring il be at your friends place in 10 min" and show up 40 min later.

Ninja out
 

frivolousz21

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if you have to worry about this....and what you should do..your not ready yet.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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