Fellas, I wonder what it means when a woman says "Youre very cheerful" "Your very friendly" "Your very welcoming"? Reason im asking is cuz in my drama class audtions were takin place so most of us students had to wait outside 4 our turn. So while waiting, I decided to practice my game on couple of ladies. I joked round with them, used C+F, and was somewhat of a clown.. by what they said, does that mean Im in the friend zone and have no chance with them whatsover when I go for the numbers? Holla back.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
When a woman says "Your really friendly and welcoming"
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
rgeere
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Not necessarily in the friendzone, but they would have to feel comfortable around you to say something like that, which is a good thing in my opinion.
RogueWarrior
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You might try saying "Thanks but I have a very dark side." If she presses you for more info say "You don't want to know." and leave it at that.
If she's interested, this will add an air of mystery. If not, you've cut things off at the pass before you get swallowed up by the FZ.
If she's interested, this will add an air of mystery. If not, you've cut things off at the pass before you get swallowed up by the FZ.
Damn u got a good one Rogue. I never thought about saying that though next time I may very well do so.. whats the best way to work these chicks next class on Tuesday? At least I got many class sessions till June to work on them both..
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
belividere
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I think your best bet is to actually choose one to target in on. I was having this conversation the other night regarding how competitive women are nowadays with my roomate and a girl friend. Throughout my dating life I swear that showing interest in one girl has let me to her friends easier than anything. This has actually led me to be confused when in a situation like yours as I'm not sure to target the one that I like and follow through or target the one I like less and make her friend jealous and competitive. I guess that is highly situational though and depends on how good a friendship and what I would want/settle for.
I've never played the mystery game though so I am not sure of its success rate. I am friendly and comforting to a degree as I have heard that from a lot of girls. Instead of acting mysterious I have had success just going through and acting on my desirees. I mean really words are words but actions mean a lot more. Try to close one of them before it is to late. I bet they have brought you up in conversation since your encounter. Capitalize soon or your flirting may fall on deaf ears. And damn that sounded like a bad fortune cookie note.
I've never played the mystery game though so I am not sure of its success rate. I am friendly and comforting to a degree as I have heard that from a lot of girls. Instead of acting mysterious I have had success just going through and acting on my desirees. I mean really words are words but actions mean a lot more. Try to close one of them before it is to late. I bet they have brought you up in conversation since your encounter. Capitalize soon or your flirting may fall on deaf ears. And damn that sounded like a bad fortune cookie note.
You make some very good points belividere. As for those two girls, one of them has a boyfriend and the other, I really do not know. However, even if I dont hook up with them, I can always keep them around as a friend/social proof in which I can meet some of their female friends and maybe hook up with them. Oh well, at least these two ladies are good practice for me, when it comes to DJing..
As for playing the mystery game, well it works but to only a certain extent. You shouldn't be talkin about yourself unless she asks nor spill your guts but at the same time, you shouldn't only give one word answers to her questions cause you will come across as aloof, stuck-up, arrogant, etc.
As for playing the mystery game, well it works but to only a certain extent. You shouldn't be talkin about yourself unless she asks nor spill your guts but at the same time, you shouldn't only give one word answers to her questions cause you will come across as aloof, stuck-up, arrogant, etc.
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Stay out the freindszone by keeping your distance and establishing your sexual desires.
A woman at work UG5 said I was a nice guy. I countered this with a clever smile and said, "Not really." This got her imagination moving. She was initiating the conversation when she said this.
In general, I'd think it's pretty bad to have a woman say you're a nice guy, which we all know means "asexual wimp". I think it might have a positive meaning though, with certain classes of women that have been used to not-so-good treatment. UG5 is fat and beyond her mate-every-day years. For her and women like her, "nice" might actually be true to its literal meaning.
In general, I'd think it's pretty bad to have a woman say you're a nice guy, which we all know means "asexual wimp". I think it might have a positive meaning though, with certain classes of women that have been used to not-so-good treatment. UG5 is fat and beyond her mate-every-day years. For her and women like her, "nice" might actually be true to its literal meaning.
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Why did you say that to her? You're just defending your status as a nice guy with resentment.Originally posted by MackJr
A woman at work UG5 said I was a nice guy. I countered this with a clever smile and said, "Not really." This got her imagination moving. She was initiating the conversation when she said this.
In general, I'd think it's pretty bad to have a woman say you're a nice guy, which we all know means "asexual wimp". I think it might have a positive meaning though, with certain classes of women that have been used to not-so-good treatment. UG5 is fat and beyond her mate-every-day years. For her and women like her, "nice" might actually be true to its literal meaning.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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Oh, dear gosh how do we do that? A lot of AFCs/NICE GUYS keep their distance and sometimes they even establish their sexual desires by staring at women or trying to be aggressive with them.Originally posted by Tha Realnezz
Stay out the freindszone by keeping your distance and establishing your sexual desires.
rgeere
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Actually, he has a point, and you can score girls this way ... This is of course assuming that the girls are sexually attracted to you anyhow, meaning that the ball is already in your court. You're just keeping the ball by doing this...Originally posted by DeathDealer
Oh, dear gosh how do we do that? A lot of AFCs/NICE GUYS keep their distance and sometimes they even establish their sexual desires by staring at women or trying to be aggressive with them.
It's totally the opposite with nice guy AFCs, they keep their distance because they are afraid or something ... Totally diffrent context there ...
You guys all make some really good points. However, another factor that crossed my mind could have been race. I am Indian, and the girls I was DJing are black. Could it be a possibility they were shocked that an Indian man was DJing them? From what I hear from many of my black friends, other races of men are afraid to approach a black women in fear of getting shot down.
I didn't use the tone of resentment, I used the "I have a secret" tone. This isn't easy to convey in text. The main thing is if a woman tries to NG you, it's a trap. If you say, "thanks", that's going to confirm it. If you get angry, as you thought I was, it will confirm a sense of insecurity. The only way to get out of the NG trap is to let it roll off your back with an air of confidence.Originally posted by DeathDealer
Why did you say that to her? You're just defending your status as a nice guy with resentment.
Ironically, I ran into one of the girls in the library today and all she did was smile as she was passin me by. I don't know how to interpret that.. if she wuz feelin me, I would think she'd say hi. I didn't do anythin except smile back.. by her just smiling does it mean she is not interested?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
rgeere
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Hah!Originally posted by LADawg49
black women in fear of getting shot down.
I don't know about that ... I'm white and know many black girls who have found interest in me.
lolOriginally posted by MackJr
A woman at work UG5 said I was a nice guy. I countered this with a clever smile and said, "Not really." This got her imagination moving. She was initiating the conversation when she said this.
In general, I'd think it's pretty bad to have a woman say you're a nice guy, which we all know means "asexual wimp". I think it might have a positive meaning though, with certain classes of women that have been used to not-so-good treatment. UG5 is fat and beyond her mate-every-day years. For her and women like her, "nice" might actually be true to its literal meaning.
i dunno i got called nice by lots of women that i had good kino with, i think by just getting called nice you need the whole story before u know if its good or bad.