Meisterman
Senior Don Juan
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- Aug 15, 2014
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If a girl you were dating for months suddenly goes cold and starts ignoring you out of nowhere, pretending you don't exist and doesn't confront you about it. Before you go NC for good do you call her out on her bull****? Even if it's just a text since you may not see her face to face. I agree with that going no contact is the best solution for when a girl flakes on you/loses interest. But the problem with no contact is a lot of it still seems about her. I see dudes posting "Oh ya I've been 46 days and 3 hours without contacting so and so" but really it's just fukin pathetic that he's even still thinking about that or it's on his mind at all. Ideally no contact should just make it so she doesn't exist in your universe anymore. Like you're not even thinking about her at all and you don't hold grudges. But my question is... When a girl flakes like this. Mind you after she said she wants to visit you in college, says she's your girlfriend, wants you to be exclusive, talks to you almost every day, etc. then she goes cold with NO explanation, by flaking on a scheduled hangout and never initiating convo again. Like what the fuk? I know girls are flakey, I know you gotta move on and just let it be. I know there's probably another dude in the picture also. And I know many guys think it's beta to try and get the last word or break NC and text her. But what about all this sh*t I just wanna get off my chest. Like I want to put her in her place and let her know I'm not mad, but I'm also not fukin stupid. And what she did was incredibly rude and disrespectful. And I'll probably leave it at that. There are more details I'll leave out for times sake but trust me when I say it's pretty bad. I'm not interested in getting back together, but I feel like I got the weight of the world on my back from this. I just wanna get it off my chest and move on. By going 'no contact' I feel like I'm in some sort of relationship purgatory, waiting for closure and not knowing or expecting to get it. So basically if a girl really does flake hard after leading you on, is it okay to set her straight once more before stopping contact? Not in an angry way but just in a "I'm not gonna take your **** and I'm not falling for your stupid games" type of way. I don't care if it's perceived as desperate or beta, etc. because ultimately it's about helping me move on and getting these words off my chest. Right now she probably thinks I still want to get back together with her and I'm sure it boasts her ego to feel like she has control over the situation, since I've last contacted her about hanging out when she blew me off cold. I just feel like once I tell her straight up it will help me move forward, because right now I still have some unsaid words and thoughts that I'd like to set straight before I move on entirely.