"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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christz

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This girl has been in my life for almost a year now

for some reason my opinion holds weight over her, we used to talk/date and even had sex a few times now we kinda put each other into the friends zone. Reason i keep her there is she is REALLY cool i mean like one of the guys type cool, and it always helps for social proof and such since she's an HB8.5 and a model for a local company. however there's like a weird tension between us.

i can't put my finger on it but she get so self concious around me and she always says i'm a little snob (jokeingly) of course and that I talk to to many girls and how i get into fights about women all the time and that i need to chill out with talking to females.

its funny because she puts it in a way where it seems like she's just telling me from a perspective point of view and not her's.

i gotta wonder, does she still have feelings my gut is saying YES however i'm a little awry to approch her again after some of the things we went through in the past.

weird thing is even after all that, we still click like clock work and have a scary ammount of things in common.

but yeah sometimes when i say things like, yeah your hair looks shorter, you get it cut she'll go no its not! and start freaking out and look in a mirror and go do you really think its short! i always stop her and go woah.. why does my opinion matter lol your not tryin to impress me. and she goes i dunno it just does.

weird i tell you
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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johnny_chase

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Go find some other girls. That's the only way you can find out.

Dude, asking this board if this chick still has feelings for you is like me asking someone here to derive Maxwell's wave equations. Exactly. You're the only one that's there with her in person.

You need to give more detail
 

christz

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i gave about as much detail as i could, she insinuates things about other females to me, and my opnion holds a little to much weight for me just being a friend.

at one time we had a "sorta" relationship but that's gone now, so its just weird this strange tension we have between us.
 

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That's what happens when you fcuk a girl, they get awkward around you, lol.

Listen, she's a model. If you say she looks slimmer, she'll go look in a mirror. If you say she cut her hair, she'll freak out. If you say she changed her eye shadow, she'll wonder if she made the right choice. Her looks are her career. It's like going to the bank and telling the investment specialist his calculator is o.k. He'll go look for a better one.

Second, if there is no more relationship, go mack on other girls, there are other girls out there. There is nothing to lose, she isnt going anywhere. If she does want some more with you, she'll let you know real fast
 

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Time to move on, if she wants you she'll let you know. You got a life to live too, bro.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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