I've watched mine go from the nice stand up guy by everyone, to the Stand up guy from guys and the Ladies man from girls. I never date girls in my social circle and they always assume I must have a couple of girlfriends. I used to be the nice guy friendzone guy (but I was in a LTR so that was expected).
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What's your reputation in your social circles?
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Vocal eccentric smooth guy.
They always assume I'm dating someone. Love the politically incorrect stuff that often come out of my mouth.
Used to be: relatively quiet smiling fat guy who said the same sh!t but wasn't taken very seriously nor liked very much.
They always assume I'm dating someone. Love the politically incorrect stuff that often come out of my mouth.
Used to be: relatively quiet smiling fat guy who said the same sh!t but wasn't taken very seriously nor liked very much.
Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
I'm 5'8". I started at 91kg (~202lbs), fat & weak (could only do 7 push-ups). Trimmed down to 71kg (158lbs) through lots & lots of running. Then I got into weight training (early last year, seriously since October 09) and I'm now 81kg (180lbs) with a lower bodyfat percentage than I was at 71kg and much more muscular.
At 91kg I was pretty much invisible and ignored. Down to 71kg, I was always included in social events. And now, guys are showing me a certain level of respect that I have not seen before, and women check me out more often or find excuses to give me shoulder rubs (not so comfortable when it's at work
).
Of course my social skills & Game were getting better at the same time my body went through those changes, so I can't say it's all the body. However, the confidence you get through that transformation shines through and people take you more seriously when you've demonstrated such discipline and bada$$ery in training - qualities they don't have. Most of my social circle consist of dance venues, and there my athleticism, high level of fitness & strength & energy show. People give you respect when they're all puffed out from a fast dance and you're still standing straight smiling. Girls are turned on when you can effortlessly pick them up off the floor and press them over your head (or flick & toss them around), while other guys struggle to do so.
I still have a long way to go with working on my training & body, but it's paying off nicely.
I think strength training should be a part of a DJ's lifestyle. You know the quiet confidence that a DJ exudes effortlessly, which is so irresistible to women? I could never quite figure out how to achieve that consistently, until I started this: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=169625 - the 20 rep breathing squat, which is one of the hardest exercises in weight training. After you've conquered a set of that, you feel like you've defeated The Beast, and when you go out that night, you're right In The Zone.
At 91kg I was pretty much invisible and ignored. Down to 71kg, I was always included in social events. And now, guys are showing me a certain level of respect that I have not seen before, and women check me out more often or find excuses to give me shoulder rubs (not so comfortable when it's at work
). Of course my social skills & Game were getting better at the same time my body went through those changes, so I can't say it's all the body. However, the confidence you get through that transformation shines through and people take you more seriously when you've demonstrated such discipline and bada$$ery in training - qualities they don't have. Most of my social circle consist of dance venues, and there my athleticism, high level of fitness & strength & energy show. People give you respect when they're all puffed out from a fast dance and you're still standing straight smiling. Girls are turned on when you can effortlessly pick them up off the floor and press them over your head (or flick & toss them around), while other guys struggle to do so.
I still have a long way to go with working on my training & body, but it's paying off nicely.
I think strength training should be a part of a DJ's lifestyle. You know the quiet confidence that a DJ exudes effortlessly, which is so irresistible to women? I could never quite figure out how to achieve that consistently, until I started this: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=169625 - the 20 rep breathing squat, which is one of the hardest exercises in weight training. After you've conquered a set of that, you feel like you've defeated The Beast, and when you go out that night, you're right In The Zone.
From the other end of the spectrum, getting muscular from being really skinny is quite different too. People don't seem to disrespect you as a skinny dude, just look down on your a little. Either way, being in shape really helps get respect right off the bat.
My reputation with social circle depends when I met them. My earliest friends still think I am a nerd ( which I am to a point for sure), so they think its a miracle I can talk to girls. My newest group of friends never believed I was such a chump with the ladies. I even tell them that I had to pick up my game and change pretty drastically, but they buy it only a little.
within my current group of friends, I have earned the nickname 'the itallion stallion'. heyyy yyooooo! Hey, its better being compared to sly than it is lucianno pavoratti I guess.
My reputation with social circle depends when I met them. My earliest friends still think I am a nerd ( which I am to a point for sure), so they think its a miracle I can talk to girls. My newest group of friends never believed I was such a chump with the ladies. I even tell them that I had to pick up my game and change pretty drastically, but they buy it only a little.
within my current group of friends, I have earned the nickname 'the itallion stallion'. heyyy yyooooo! Hey, its better being compared to sly than it is lucianno pavoratti I guess.
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Some people see me as a nice guy, some see me as a jerk, some see me as a ladies man, some see me as an AFC, some see me as a very intelligent and cultural type, some see me as a nerd...
What Ive realized Is that this things dont affect me anymore, I cant change other peoples oinions about me, I only can change MY opinion... the important thing to me is how i see myself and to never let myself fall on other peoples expectations and stereotypes.
The key for me to relate with people is how they treat me. I dont give a s.it if they think Im an AFC, but if im feeling some disrespect from them because of their distorted perception of me, Im going to move on...
What Ive realized Is that this things dont affect me anymore, I cant change other peoples oinions about me, I only can change MY opinion... the important thing to me is how i see myself and to never let myself fall on other peoples expectations and stereotypes.
The key for me to relate with people is how they treat me. I dont give a s.it if they think Im an AFC, but if im feeling some disrespect from them because of their distorted perception of me, Im going to move on...
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I'm sure it's both. But there's another factor you're overlooking, and that's the fact that you're 27. At that age, you are truly coming into your prime as a man, so you're liable to be getting some attention accordingly.
Dear God, I wish I had known this stuff when I was that age! I can't imagine how my life could have been. I've only found this seduction stuff in the past year, pretty late in life. I mean I'm not complaining, I had my successes and failures with women when I was your age, and some of it I figured out on my own. But if I knew then all the stuff I've learned in the last year, I can't imagine.
I did start working out regularly in my 20s, before that I was really skinny. And yeah, it does make a difference. As I got older, I let my weight blow up a little too much a few times, but nothing extreme. So I've been in pretty good shape for the most part. Almost makes me wish I could go through some drastic transformation to see the difference but I've been working out pretty regularly since my twenties. So any major change on my part is going to have to be mostly mental, which I am definitely working on.