What's your ideal situation with women?

[JonnyX]

I'm 36, reasonably wealthy (barely top 1% income with an impressive job title). My personality is top tier but physically, I'm gutter tier (Indian, short, perma scrawny fat despite regular exercise, need jaw surgery). Girls don't generally find me attractive. I know my personality is already at its max because i've never had trouble making friends, I kill it at work, and girls that have liked me did so after they got to know me first.

But when you're the glorious trifecta of short, Indian, and ugly, almost all first doors are deadbolted shut to it. Almost impossible to get your foot in anywhere.

I would love some combo of:
- Send online messages and get responses from 1/4 girls (instead of 1/33 now), with maybe a date from 1/3 of those girls (so 1/12).
- Tinder and match maybe 1/30-60 swipes (currently 1/110 or so then no serious replies), maybe a date every few weeks.
- Go to bars/clubs solo (I'm an extrovert and lone wolf by nature these days) and hit on girls with at least half responding positively to the interaction and at least 1/10 or so sexually interested.

I don't know if any of this is remotely possible for me or any guy who isn't some combo of 6', white, and handsome.

I just had some surgery that improved my looks a lot. I think I will take some more pics and maybe go out a few nights solo to recalibrate. Probably after that I'll get more surgery as that seems to be the only thing that matters - better face, better life.

I'm not sure if can ever attain my "ideal" but I'd like to.

What's your ideal and why? Do you think you'll ever have it?

 

[resilient]

Combine what Raiders said and get some cool hobbies that involve diverse social circles. You need to learn to be comfortable in your own skin.

You don’t need to go clubbing every night to work on calibration.

Stop thinking about how you’re not another race or what’s going on with your face/jawline. I know an Indian guy who is shorter than me, tone, comfortable in his own skin, c/f, and is the life of the party when we we’re out in groups.

Take care of your skin. Make sure you’re well groomed, facial hair is well kept, and dress well for the occasion. Think of affirmations, write down 100 things you like about yourself.

Consider what you’re grateful for. You can work towards finding what brings you happiness or you can be happy with what you have in the present. Do that and you’ll exhibit this behavior in set.

I’m working on my own ideal if you put it that way. I lift almost daily and just joined a kickboxing gym.