whats the next move

[khadd909]

hello everyone am new here my first thread but been reading a lot of very helpful information and would like to get some advice on a situation with a girl that i like.

6 months ago i met this very attractive woman online got her number and started talking to her,a month went by after endless conversations over the phone she decided to come visit me ( we live in two different cities about 120km distance)

we met for the first time we hangout and felt like we have known each other for the longest time ever .. her level of interest was high .. she touching me laughing at everything i say giving me complements and we kissed on the first date that was the first time we met each other ... we stayed together till the sunrise then she went back to her city )

it was a very interesting experience we both felt really comfortable with one another and there was this burning desire to get on each other but we both played it cool we kissed on the first date ...shes a teaser very playful ... smart and very attractive .


the following week i went up to her city to see her through out that week we kept talking it felt very easy and the chemistry was deff there we spent another amazing night together ( no secks) and we seemed to be getting more interested in each other.


3 weeks had gone by after our first meeting i set another date to go to her city and see her i really enjoyed her energy she was in her feminine side all the time which made me really into her but on that date in particular something weird happen the magic has worn off ( we were talking about something i did i don't remember what exactly i was saying but she responded by GFY i looked at her in a very gentle was as i didn't like it and said say that again in a low tone to give her an indication that i didn't like that but not to make it awkward. she said am sorry i wont say that again 20 min passed by and there it goes again I felt as if like it was a test to see how much she can push my buttons)



I simply said i don't like the sound of that and i think our night is done here
weather that was a right action to do or not i did it and felt like i was standing my ground and drawing my borders.


on my way back to my city she sends me a MSG saying that shes sorry and wished me good luck and wanted to know when i get home safe, contact between us been minimum ever since.

after that i though a lot to my self and thought maybe i over reacted or maybe she was joking or even maybe she was comfortable with me hence why she have said that... but again all i was doing is trying to find an excuse for her cause i really liked the girl.

I moved on we both didn't get in touch with one another ever since but i always had her on my mind because of the chemistry i felt between us but i was moving on and didn't initiate any contact till 3 weeks ago she msgs me and say how are you we msged back and forth n checked up on each other


4 days gone by i called her and said ill be in her city the following day and would like to get together and catch up she sounds very happy and accepted
the next day i called and she FLAKED on me.

the following "night" she msgs saying was had a long day and was sleeping
I replied and said seems like you have a lot going on figure it out and let me know when you free to meet up " now maybe here my mistake was that i showed interest too fast "

anyways the following week she msgs me and says hey, we talked and i said i miss you and i know you miss me lets meet up she said " lets do it , i don't mind " i was ready to take off to head to her on the spot but after hearing her kind of cold respond i said alright next week sounds good n she agreed .


now this week we were suppose to meet i MSG her saying " am i picking you up or we meeting somewhere " she flakes out on me and says shes still at work her boss bla bla bla it was the weekend and around 9 pm am deff sure she wasn't at work ... i said nothing after that


please give me advice on what to do in this situation i really liked the girl but am loosing interest in her cause of her flaking behavior did i do anything wrong in my approach here am open to any criticism

 

[pyros]

hello everyone am new here my first thread but been reading a lot of very helpful information and would like to get some advice on a situation with a girl that i like.

6 months ago i met this very attractive woman online got her number and started talking to her,a month went by after endless conversations over the phone she decided to come visit me ( we live in two different cities about 120km distance)

we met for the first time we hangout and felt like we have known each other for the longest time ever .. her level of interest was high .. she touching me laughing at everything i say giving me complements and we kissed on the first date that was the first time we met each other ... we stayed together till the sunrise then she went back to her city )

it was a very interesting experience we both felt really comfortable with one another and there was this burning desire to get on each other but we both played it cool we kissed on the first date ...shes a teaser very playful ... smart and very attractive .


the following week i went up to her city to see her through out that week we kept talking it felt very easy and the chemistry was deff there we spent another amazing night together ( no secks) and we seemed to be getting more interested in each other.


3 weeks had gone by after our first meeting i set another date to go to her city and see her i really enjoyed her energy she was in her feminine side all the time which made me really into her but on that date in particular something weird happen the magic has worn off ( we were talking about something i did i don't remember what exactly i was saying but she responded by GFY i looked at her in a very gentle was as i didn't like it and said say that again in a low tone to give her an indication that i didn't like that but not to make it awkward. she said am sorry i wont say that again 20 min passed by and there it goes again I felt as if like it was a test to see how much she can push my buttons)



I simply said i don't like the sound of that and i think our night is done here
weather that was a right action to do or not i did it and felt like i was standing my ground and drawing my borders.


on my way back to my city she sends me a MSG saying that shes sorry and wished me good luck and wanted to know when i get home safe, contact between us been minimum ever since.

after that i though a lot to my self and thought maybe i over reacted or maybe she was joking or even maybe she was comfortable with me hence why she have said that... but again all i was doing is trying to find an excuse for her cause i really liked the girl.

I moved on we both didn't get in touch with one another ever since but i always had her on my mind because of the chemistry i felt between us but i was moving on and didn't initiate any contact till 3 weeks ago she msgs me and say how are you we msged back and forth n checked up on each other


4 days gone by i called her and said ill be in her city the following day and would like to get together and catch up she sounds very happy and accepted
the next day i called and she FLAKED on me.

the following "night" she msgs saying was had a long day and was sleeping
I replied and said seems like you have a lot going on figure it out and let me know when you free to meet up " now maybe here my mistake was that i showed interest too fast "

anyways the following week she msgs me and says hey, we talked and i said i miss you and i know you miss me lets meet up she said " lets do it , i don't mind " i was ready to take off to head to her on the spot but after hearing her kind of cold respond i said alright next week sounds good n she agreed .


now this week we were suppose to meet i MSG her saying " am i picking you up or we meeting somewhere " she flakes out on me and says shes still at work her boss bla bla bla it was the weekend and around 9 pm am deff sure she wasn't at work ... i said nothing after that


please give me advice on what to do in this situation i really liked the girl but am loosing interest in her cause of her flaking behavior did i do anything wrong in my approach here am open to any criticism

You can quickly read in bold what the negative shi-t that is going on.
She does not have interest in you because she FLAKED TWICE. She may have had some interest in the begininig, but after two flakes, she definetely does not, or...she has some but she is seing another man, that is for sure.

I dont know if you overreacted, it depends on what she said. If it was something really annoying or disgusting or out of place, you did well.

She flaked twice, and you kept asking her out, really wrong move. If a woman flakes twice, you should not ask her out again, and you will only see her again if she begs for you.

Besides, WHY THE HECK ARE YOU MEETING WITH A WOMAN who lives 120km away from YOU???! did you run out of women where you live?? really? Do you plan on going bankrupt? You must be spending all the fuel in the world.

And you met her online...great! I could say that 85% of women online are trash.


So, my advices in short, FORGET ABOUT THIS WOMAN, and go find another women that live max 30 mins away from you, that do not flake on you, and have sex with you.

 

[Harry Wilmington]

PUNCTUATION. It makes it easier to read what the heck it is you're saying.

Anyway... you say you're losing interest in her 'cause she's flaking; in reality, she's flaking because she's lost interest in you. Your conversations with her became too serious - no, she shouldn't have said "Go f--k yourself" but we don't know in what context she said it, so one can only assume she said it jokingly and you became all prudish about it - and she became disinterested. Furthermore, you live too far apart from each other to be able to take each other out enough to keep the interest sustained; AND, you became the one that was doing more of the traveling than she was, so it was off-balance. Lastly, you got too "verbally emotional" by telling her you miss her - like, dude, she's not even your girlfriend yet! Rarely should you verbalize your like for a girl, and even if you're a wordy person, you don't say that kind of crap until AFTER she's been made the girlfriend.

At this point I'd advise you to let this one go; however, assuming you're like most guys on here, you won't do that, and it's not going to hit home for you until she flakes on you a few more times or stops answering your messages/calls altogether. So I'll just say: when these things start to happen, there's no need to call her out on it. Like, you sending her a message saying "why won't you come see me? Don't you like me anymore? Why have you stopped answering my calls??" isn't necessary - if she liked you, she'd see you, not flake on you, message you on a regular basis, and find time in her oh-so busy schedule to spend time with you. If it's not happening, it's cause she doesn't want it to happen but is being passive-aggressive about dumping you since girls hate conflict. Hope this helps!

 

[khadd909]

hell right appreciate it

 

[cordoncordon]

So what did she say that offended you? I missed that.

Nevermind GFY is go fawk yourself. In what context and way did she say it?

 

[khadd909]

I am not really sure , but i think i was telling her a story about something that happened to a friend of mine and what i told him to do about it and she said what she said.