Originally posted by DJDamage
I dated someone very similer to your situation well actually not dated because according to her we are just friends with benefits and this wasn't a relationship ( see how those women twist their words)
"""Her and i are "extremely" close. We have about 3 years of history wrapped up into 1 year, and her and i have a very strong connection. Something didn't feel right by playing the walking/ignoring bit."""
really? well I was there too where I thought we had a strong connections like I have found my better half and I was in love, so in essence I had oneitis really bad. What I suspect you were to this "USER" was a part time boyfriend - where you help her out solve her problems, maybe get a kiss here and a touch there while she goes out with other guys on action dates and have wild sex with them hance the full time Boyfriend.
You can never have a really CLOSE and STRONG connection with a girl unless she is in love with you and you banged her. You are pouring your own feelings on to her. In reality if she really cared about you, she wouldn't have dated someone before breaking up with you , SHE DIDN"T SHOW YOU ANY RESPECT. The guy she just started dating and got to know with in a matter of weeks got more respect then you!!
""I basically told her the deal, and that it was too hard to be "just friends" with her, and that i couldn't be. Her first reaction was , "oh...well...i mean...if that's what you want...then... i guess i'll have to respect that..." Her tone was quite low, and i could tell she was disappointed. A couple of seconds later it turned into, "..but...i really like you.""""
She said Ill have to respect that???? where was the respect to begin with? I think she was upset that you were a good friend because you did what she told you, everyone uses someone and I suspect that you made her feel good about herself when she was single, but as soon as another FULL TIME BOYFRIEND comes into the picture, you are yesterday news.
sorry to be harsh, but this is what Ive experienced and the best thing to do is to try to cut all contact with her. Tough luck seeing her in class, I still see mine at work. ONEITIS has struck again, try to get over her by seeing other women.
