"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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What would you have done in this situation?

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Ok today I was walking down a busy street downtown at night when I see 3 girls walking down the street towards me. They were wearing these big belts that had lit up words rolling across a screen on the belt. So trying to read what the belt said on the girl closest to me I basically just stared at the belt while they were still somewhat far away. So when they get closer I look up at the chick and we make EC. I'd put her @ a HB7.5. So anyways the chick says to me "gimme some ****", suprised I start laughing and turn around when they pass, but they just keep walking. Sort of caught me by suprise, and I wasnt sure what to do. What would you have done? Caught back up with her and tried for a number close. I was thinking of going back and not even trying to talk to her, and just being like "ok then give me a number". But like I said caught me by suprise.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Popeyes said:
Ok today I was walking down a busy street downtown at night when I see 3 girls walking down the street towards me. They were wearing these big belts that had lit up words rolling across a screen on the belt. So trying to read what the belt said on the girl closest to me I basically just stared at the belt while they were still somewhat far away. So when they get closer I look up at the chick and we make EC. I'd put her @ a HB7.5. So anyways the chick says to me "gimme some ****", suprised I start laughing and turn around when they pass, but they just keep walking. Sort of caught me by suprise, and I wasnt sure what to do. What would you have done? Caught back up with her and tried for a number close. I was thinking of going back and not even trying to talk to her, and just being like "ok then give me a number". But like I said caught me by suprise.
Doesnt sound like the type of woman i would want ringing my phone. Consider yourself lucky.
 

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What did she actually say? Gimme some *** -- what?

To answer your question, though, I PROBABLY would have been stunned just like you, and I might have felt good that she said something to me (ego boost), but I probably would have cursed myself for not saying anything back. Then again, my confidence HAS been picking up steam, so I'm probably on the borderline.

What I would LIKE to do in that kind of situation is to turn around and say something back to them, just like what you thought of. And if they don't respond, to run and catch up with them and say something like ... "hey, you can't just say something like that and then not back it up.... So what's your name?" Actually, like I said, atm, I'm not too far off feeling like I COULD do something like that. Tell those girls to walk past ME and I'll find out. :D
 

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Halloween31 said:
Doesnt sound like the type of woman i would want ringing my phone. Consider yourself lucky.
Yea I was thinking a little bit along the same lines as well.

And what she said was gimme some d*i*c*k.
 
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