"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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What unites all the theories?

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This would be a tip but I'm not going to fill out all the "how to" information in here because I can't give a damn, I'm tired. This is just an idea I feel like throwing up.

I was thinking about all this seduction material I've read, trying to work out what brings it all together. I mean, David DeAngelo's methods are completely different from Gunwitch which is frankly the opposite of the Mystery Method, blah blah. Wierd huh?

I've come to the conclusion that there are three main "spheres" which all material on seduction broadly fits into.

1. The manipulation of the Validation Dynamic.

Validation is something which everyone wants but which is often uncomfortable or unimportant when we have it. It's a paradox. Giving away too much validation results in contempt. To put it another way, it's how much you give of "yourself". Compliments and sucking up are saying, "yep, here I am, you have me". Negs etc are saying the opposite: anti-validation. This sphere of seduction involves making them want your validation, teasing with it and using it to create strong feelings. Examples include negs, "freeze-outs", C&F, push and pull, etc. David DeAngelo's stuff has the best understanding of this. It's like leaning back and letting them come into your space. Chase and they will run.

2. Masculinity/Status.
As exemplified by Pook, Krassus and the general DJ-philosophy. (DeAngelo too to an extent).

Pook explained it awesomely, I would strongly recommend you read the Book Of Pook as available in my signature ^_^; Pook said, women want worlds. Someone with passion and a purpose. A musician, artist, author, stand up comedian, businessman - they all have a world of their own that gives them a reason to live. There's a reason that girls like rockstars. It's a sort of power, inner energy -- that's masculinity.

Magic tricks, social savvy - "demonstrating value" - is a small scale version of this which PUAs use.

3. Sexuality. (the gunwitch method, Pook).
Women like sex just like men like sex, and if you get them in the mood - if they see you as a sexual being, assosiate you with sex - they will **** you. Hell, you'd do the same thing. (Ideas about sluthood and your undesirability notwithstanding, of course).
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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i LIKE where your HEAD IS AT!!!

hahaha, a GRAND UNIFIED THEORY of chick harvesting!

in the beginning was newtonian physics, then relativity and now quantum theory... and yet there is no unifying framework that relates everything together. and they search for GUT.

and now, you've brought that search to the pickup. i love it.

indeed. let us try to boil it all down to the essence that applies to everything across the board. it would make remembering easier and simplify what is a BROAD topic with many seemingly disparate advice.

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