Ok, so I have had luck talking to woman, no problem. The only thing where I can feel things get sort of off track is when a women asks about my past relationship, since I am recently divorced after a decade of marriage. When this topic comes up, about past relationships, how should I handle it? How much info should I reveal. I don't want to try to avoid it to seem like I am hiding something and make them think something bad, but I don't want to reveal too much. Any tips on this would help. For some reason I seem to stumble here, all other topics are just fine. I just have no clue what they want to hear about this.
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What to say to women about recent divorce?
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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If you say the wrong thing then their alarm bells go off and they'll reject you. She is concerned about this, because she thinks you will go back to your ex. She see's your recent divorce as a threat to her security should she choose to date you. Women are very insecure and tend to project quite often.
How I always got around it was never talk about it. When I did it was only because they brought it up. Then I was very vague. If you don't see this girl as long term, then just lie to her. Tell her it was 2yrs ago or more. Or spin some story that you ended the relationship 4 years ago and just recently made the divorce final.
How I always got around it was never talk about it. When I did it was only because they brought it up. Then I was very vague. If you don't see this girl as long term, then just lie to her. Tell her it was 2yrs ago or more. Or spin some story that you ended the relationship 4 years ago and just recently made the divorce final.
Alright, I will just tell them that we just ended up growing apart and went our separate ways for the better, and that is all. If I ever end up dating a woman for a while I guess I will tell her more about it if she wants to know. Definitely will never hook up with the ex, no worries about that.
Also, what about kids. I have two of them and get to have them every other weekend. I love em like crazy, but how do I go about talking about this if they ask?
Also, what about kids. I have two of them and get to have them every other weekend. I love em like crazy, but how do I go about talking about this if they ask?
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I've been divorced for seven years and I have three kids.
In my age bracket, nearly every woman I've been out with is divorced (I can't handle widows) and has kids.
'Growing apart ' is a neutral explanation. So if that's what happened, go with it. If you cheated in her and ended up divorced, well, good luck dodging that one.
My kids are early 20s and late teens. They are a big part of my life and focus. I don't hide that from anyone. If women I'm interested in can't handle that, it's their problem.
In my age bracket, nearly every woman I've been out with is divorced (I can't handle widows) and has kids.
'Growing apart ' is a neutral explanation. So if that's what happened, go with it. If you cheated in her and ended up divorced, well, good luck dodging that one.
My kids are early 20s and late teens. They are a big part of my life and focus. I don't hide that from anyone. If women I'm interested in can't handle that, it's their problem.
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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Ok, well here is the thing. She is the one who cheated on me three times total. The last time she hooked up with a high school fling on facebook (3 months before she asked for a seperation) so that when she left she was able to jump straight into his arms. So how does that sound?
Am I able to explain this? The only reason I would rather not is because of the saying
"If a man cheats, it's his fault. If a woman cheats, it's still the mans fault."
So either way I could coming out looking bad.
Am I able to explain this? The only reason I would rather not is because of the saying
"If a man cheats, it's his fault. If a woman cheats, it's still the mans fault."
So either way I could coming out looking bad.
Tictac
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I tell women that the reason I divorced my ex-wife was that I couldn't get along with her boyfriend.
Nuf said.
Nuf said.