"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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ok, im friends with this girl, we're not the best of friends but we're friends! we hang out here and there and really enjoy each other's company. my feelings for her escalated and she knows how i feel, and she wants to remain just friends, she's unsure that it can lead anywhere. this was about 3 weeks ago, and since i've been laying low, and finally i contacted her again and see if she wants to hang out next week and she said yes.
what does this mean? she still wants to hang out even though she knows that i like her... what should i do when i see her, play it cool? or be more forward?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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sounds like she doesn't want you and sadly, girls don't usually change their minds about this stuff.
you want to show her that you don't need her and that other girls like you. don't be a jerk to her, just stop persuing her, and she'll wonder "why?"

when it comes down to you analyzing your actions: "where did I go wrong?" "what should I do to get her to like me more?" you've already given up on yourself and your abilities, and you will end in failure, not just with the girl, but with yourself.

move on and change yourself into someone better who can do better.
there are so many girls out there, I doubt one single girl would be better than all others... you have yet to meet this "perfect girl" for yourself.
 
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seems like this girl does like hanging out with you. like you said you guys are not best of friends but she still agrees to hang out, knowing that you like her. this may be a good sign.
Usually when women know how you feel about them and they dont feel the same way, they totally disconnect themselves from the other person, but this is not the case. I know you're in the friendzone, and its hard to get out, but it's possible. i think you just have a try a little harder. You know what they say, the best couples are the ones that start out as friends.
You should give yourself a time frame... give yourself about a month or so, and do whatever you feel that you need to do to get this girl, and after a month or however long you decide, then move on, atleast you try... you have to give yourself a chance, because anything can happen!!! goodluck
 
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