What to do... What to do... need some help guys

[In2theGame]

Fellow SS'vers, This past week has been a kick in the balls for me with a combination of things just life throwing me curve balls,. anyway... I have a GF who ive been with for a while now, heres the issue,... Shes been sick and has been going to the doctors because of pains under her abdomen, i even went with her to the hospital ER when we woke up one morning 2 weeks ago. Some members in her family suffered from depression,.... 4 days ago i noticed she didnt act the same... i called her out on it and she was totally wacked out, she couldnt stop crying, it was rough and then i proceeded to ask her what was wrong, she told me she felt down/sad/depressed/unenergized and feels like she doesnt care about anything. Then she said she has alot of things running in her mind about us and she feels scared to lose me. Any question i asked her in general was answered with a crying "i dunno".

I caught a cab and took off to see her last night at 1am because she wanted me to and see if she would feel better, after the night progressed, i became worried because ive never seen her like this and at random times through the night she would grab me and kiss me or make out, at one point we almost started having sex, i got her pants off and she was totally turned on by how wet she was but then she kind of put her hands on her face like she was going to cry again but then she would feel like crying and she felt jittery. Again i asked questions and she kept saying "i dunno" and went into how she feels lost or she doesnt know anything. Then she went on to say she feels unhappy with herself and unsexy etc. Keep in mind that as long as me and her have been together (4 years), she has never acted like this, this just started this week.

Dude i am at a total loss with whats going on, I dunno if meds are turning her like this or she is having a big panic attack. I gotta say, i do deeply care about her and see a future with her but now this has thrown me off.
One last thing, Next week its her girlfriends birthday and its at a bar, I dont have problems with her going to a bar or anything especially since she hardly ever goes to bars/clubs/lounges but in this case its her best friends birthday so its fine, What i am worried about is that if she goes with that feeling she has that she feels she doesnt care about anything and feels unsexy or whatever and gets enough drinks in her, a potential cheating scenario could play out. Im seeing her later tonight and we might catch a movie but all this is bothering me for sure. Best advice you can give guys, what are your thoughs?

P.S. Just to add to my post, There were times through out the night that i made her laugh and smile, and she would hug on to me after she smiled/laughed. Before i left her room, i made her laugh by making a cvm joke lol she kissed me and then i left. just wanted to add that she did laugh/smile during the night.

 

[CarlitosWay]

Fellow SS'vers, This past week has been a kick in the balls for me with a combination of things just life throwing me curve balls,. anyway... I have a GF who ive been with for a while now, heres the issue,... Shes been sick and has been going to the doctors because of pains under her abdomen, i even went with her to the hospital ER when we woke up one morning 2 weeks ago. Some members in her family suffered from depression,.... 4 days ago i noticed she didnt act the same... i called her out on it and she was totally wacked out, she couldnt stop crying, it was rough and then i proceeded to ask her what was wrong, she told me she felt down/sad/depressed/unenergized and feels like she doesnt care about anything. Then she said she has alot of things running in her mind about us and she feels scared to lose me. Any question i asked her in general was answered with a crying "i dunno".

I caught a cab and took off to see her last night at 1am because she wanted me to and see if she would feel better, after the night progressed, i became worried because ive never seen her like this and at random times through the night she would grab me and kiss me or make out, at one point we almost started having sex, i got her pants off and she was totally turned on by how wet she was but then she kind of put her hands on her face like she was going to cry again but then she would feel like crying and she felt jittery. Again i asked questions and she kept saying "i dunno" and went into how she feels lost or she doesnt know anything. Then she went on to say she feels unhappy with herself and unsexy etc. Keep in mind that as long as me and her have been together (4 years), she has never acted like this, this just started this week.

Dude i am at a total loss with whats going on, I dunno if meds are turning her like this or she is having a big panic attack. I gotta say, i do deeply care about her and see a future with her but now this has thrown me off.
One last thing, Next week its her girlfriends birthday and its at a bar, I dont have problems with her going to a bar or anything especially since she hardly ever goes to bars/clubs/lounges but in this case its her best friends birthday so its fine, What i am worried about is that if she goes with that feeling she has that she feels she doesnt care about anything and feels unsexy or whatever and gets enough drinks in her, a potential cheating scenario could play out. Im seeing her later tonight and we might catch a movie but all this is bothering me for sure. Best advice you can give guys, what are your thoughs?

P.S. Just to add to my post, There were times through out the night that i made her laugh and smile, and she would hug on to me after she smiled/laughed. Before i left her room, i made her laugh by making a cvm joke lol she kissed me and then i left. just wanted to add that she did laugh/smile during the night.

You're absolutely fine, you're doing everything you can to comfort your girlfriend. She's going through what seems to be a very rough time, just be there for her and continue to comfort her the best you can. It's out of your power but you can at least help ease her way through all of this. Remember you're just her boyfriend and some one who seems to deeply care about her, not a doctor. Also stop conjuring up thoughts of her cheating on you, that's more paranoia than anything. She seems a mess and you might be one of the only stable people to grasp onto, be her pillar of ivory.

 

[In2theGame]

Carlito, Thanks for the advice dude. Definitely came out of no where, im curious to see how she acts like later on.

 

[Bible_Belt]

I dunno if meds are turning her like this


Probably so if she is on meds, which would fvck with the serotonin receptors in her brain.

I recognize the 'I don't care' feeling as being genuine depression. It's not something that you can talk a person out of feeling. The best you can do is to just be there with her. Have the attitude of "ok, fine, let's be depressed. I'm here with you and we can do that together." Life surely does suck in about 1,001 ways. It is of course great fun in a lot more ways, but it's hard to see that when a person is depressed. Ride the down wave of her emotions with her, and realize that it is all just chemical and no reflection upon you.