"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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What to do on the 1st date with a women?

SUPER SHY FRIEK

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So I am going out this thursday or friday with a gal for a cup of coffee. I am wondering what should the topics be about, what would be good jokes that would make her laugh her a ss out, and how should I close the date (ex. with a kiss, hand touch and should I make any insinuation/invitation back to my apt). Thank you very much for your attention!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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JPFromTally

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Drinks are better. Play some pool or something instead of just interviewing each other. Always go for at least a kiss at the end of the night.
 

The Forms

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Don't worry so much about what to say or do. You don't have to "be prepared" to go on a date. Just relax. Talk about what comes natural. If you get along well with one another, the conversation will just flow. If you hit a bump just ask open ended questions about her life (where'd you grow up? How did you like that? Tell me about your job.)

As far as "do I kiss her, ask her back to my place" type stuff, just feel it out. If things went well and you feel the chemistry, give her a kiss. If the kiss is getting kind of hot and heavy, and you think she'd be up for going to your place, you can bring it up.
 

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The Forms said:
Don't worry so much about what to say or do. You don't have to "be prepared" to go on a date. Just relax. Talk about what comes natural. If you get along well with one another, the conversation will just flow. If you hit a bump just ask open ended questions about her life (where'd you grow up? How did you like that? Tell me about your job.)

As far as "do I kiss her, ask her back to my place" type stuff, just feel it out. If things went well and you feel the chemistry, give her a kiss. If the kiss is getting kind of hot and heavy, and you think she'd be up for going to your place, you can bring it up.
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