"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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SamMalone

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I'm 20 and live in an apartment with three friends of roughly the same age. All of them are AFCs, yet two have pretty nice looking girlfriends. Anyways, my room looks great, but the living room looks HORRIBLE. It's not very big, yet it has two chairs and TWO couches because they insist that it's "comfortable" to have always have a seat. Then there is a AWFUL, old, ugly American Flag above a couch and a blanket over one of the doorways that was put up for "sneak factor". That's right.

I've brought up how bad it looks and suggested that we should trash a chair and a couch (neither of which have cushions) and everything else to make it look presentable, but I get out-voted 3-1 every time. I'm literally embarrassed to bring anyone over, let alone a girl I was interested in. I can't move out until next May, either. Any tips on how I can go about changing this?
 

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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

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Originally posted by SamMalone
I'm 20 and live in an apartment with three friends of roughly the same age. All of them are AFCs, yet two have pretty nice looking girlfriends. Anyways, my room looks great, but the living room looks HORRIBLE. It's not very big, yet it has two chairs and TWO couches because they insist that it's "comfortable" to have always have a seat. Then there is a AWFUL, old, ugly American Flag above a couch and a blanket over one of the doorways that was put up for "sneak factor". That's right.

I've brought up how bad it looks and suggested that we should trash a chair and a couch (neither of which have cushions) and everything else to make it look presentable, but I get out-voted 3-1 every time. I'm literally embarrassed to bring anyone over, let alone a girl I was interested in. I can't move out until next May, either. Any tips on how I can go about changing this?
so you are gonna move out because the living room is crap ? and spend more cash to have your own??
WOAHk:rolleyes:


Why dont you just make your room look better.:)
 

SamMalone

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My room looks fine, but the first thing you see when you walk in is the sh***y living room. It's embarassing.
 

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not much to do when majority rules. i'm sure that despite that, you'll still bring honeys to the pad. do not apologize for the messy living room. act as if it's the most posh spot on the block. when she visits your room, i'm sure she'll have a good impression of you
 
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