What to do in this situation.

[FunkyMillion]

I talked to this girl about three weeks ago at Best Buy [she works there] for about ten minutes. I asked her questions and she reciprocated but when I asked her if she has some time the following week to hang out, she said that she's working and caught up with school because she has to pay rent and be a full time student. But she told me that if I ever want to talk with her, I can always go to best buy and we can talk.

Now the question is, should I go back to Best Buy and pretend that I'm looking something to buy? And when I see her again, should I ask her out again? What I'm thinking is maybe just ask her when she take her break and then buy her lunch or a cup of coffee or something.

I would say that this girl is HB7.5 but her personality, it bumps her up to HB8.5. She's cute and slim not bad at all.

 

[Stéphane]

Dude, she already turned you down if she was really interested she would of made other plans with you. Just forget about her.

 

[Interceptor]

Keep going.
Do not be the creepy guy stalker though.

But stay on it.

If she ever says anything, just say "Hey look, I like you. I just want to stop by and say hi, since I was in the area." Keep smiling, and stay relaxed, maintain eye contact and MEAN it.

You are not stalking her, or trying to get things from her.
You just think she's cute, and funny, and you like her.

Don't apologize for that,. If she acts weird, you can bring it to light ,and say so.
"Hey, so you have a problem with a guy liking you? LOL! You don't date much do you?? Now I KNOW we have to go out! You must be desperate for companionship!!LOL!"

Something that will show her that SHE is the ONE who is VIOLATING Social Norms.
But I cannot stress enough that you should NOT be stalking her, or watching her, or being too available or needy.



She didn't comply because there's not enough rapport there.

You are also still in attraction phase, dude.
Work on keeping the attraction going.
Do not be desperate.
Do not be needy.
Do not look for her approval of you.
Do not ask for permission.
Do not try to 'get" or "take" from her.

Always be comfortable, relaxed, and cool.

You will naturally escalate with your IOI's only when she shows you something that is interesting to you.

 

[wheelin&dealin]

I've got the good ole line "come by and visit me at my work..." when I asked a girl for her number. It normally means F*CK OFF!! but all situations are different and you have to interpret what she says based on a number of factors. Body language, eye contact, tone, posture...etc.

 

[FunkyMillion]

Interceptor, nice advice man...

it's pretty weird because eventhough she rejected my offer to take her out, we still talked for about a good five minutes and then a person asked her to help him out on something and said "bye, nice meeting you" while looking back at me. She felt comfortable around me, she didn't feel like being invaded of her space.

I'm going back and pretend that I'm christmas shopping, I hope she still remembers me since it's been a good three weeks since that day.

Oh and by the way, does anyone know how to find out if an employee is on duty at best buy?