What to do if alcohol makes me less sociable?

[adpreston1988]

I'm not positive that alcohol makes me less sociable, but there are times when it definitely has. Sometimes when I have too much, instead of making me really outgoing it will just make me feel like passing out and keeping to myself. What can I do to overcome this? Because it's really hard to avoid drinking in college, especially when everyone else is and it would be awkard not to. I'm not just drinking because everyone else is, but I thought it would help me w/ my lack of socializing, but instead it seems to be doing the opposite. Thanks.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Beware of relinquishing your control to crutches. Boost your abilities authentically instead of artificially.

 

[adpreston1988]

any other advice?

 

[DJDamage]

any other advice?

I think FD pretty much nailed it.

 

[Mjazz]

First off, dont drink so much that you feel like that, and secondly you need to look at yourself, do some deep thinking and analyzing and see what problems you have. I realized that the majority of drugs just bring out who you really are, its like a truth serum. When i used to get stoned, i lost all of my confidence, i jsut wanted to stay home, then i realized that the reason for that was because i was not very confident normally, subconciously. I started working on that when I was sober, and now when i get stoned I am confident as can be. Im not sure if its the same with alcohol, but its worth looking into, the problems you face from being drunk stem from the problems you subconciously face when sober.

 

[mrRuckus]

drink less, genius.

jesus christ what a world of helpless people

 

[Adone]

When I was a happy guy, alcohol and drugs used to make me even happier. Now that I'm a depressed loser, alcohol and drugs make me more depressed.

Mjazz totally nailed it.

 

[oakraiderz2]

drink less, genius.

jesus christ what a world of helpless people

Well put.

 

[donjuanjovi]

drink less, genius.

jesus christ what a world of helpless people

Holy crap! It took 6 posts for someone to suggest this!!!!

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Holy crap! It took 6 posts for someone to suggest this!!!!

Umm, nooo...

 

[MisterNigma]

Well, don't drink.

If you have no choice but to drink, then drink in moderation.

If you don't want to look like a pu$$y, then walk around with a glass of water. HINT: Grey Goose on the Rocks, and Water with Ice look the same... Berr, and root beer, same look, no effect...

Now me personally, I love to have 2-3-10 drinks, new years I had 22, not a good idea... one of the worst hangovers I've ever had, and I've had some bad ones...

It's just a matter of cotrol, the alcohol should benefit you, you should control and channel the effect, not the other way around.


-E.Nigma

 

[Zwitterion]

Go out and tell the people you're with that you're experimenting with not drinking with alchohol for a little while. Decide through your own life experience whether it makes you less sociable or not.

I've made a pledge towards sobriety myself. I drink no more than 2-3 beers when I go out and I have to say that alchohol is completely overrated. Ya, you think you need it when you first walk into the place but after an hour or 2 you get comfortable in the enviroment and it's not a big deal at all. I get mildly buzzed now (if that) and I find myself outtalking just about everyone in my group towards the end of the night and doing more approaches since I quit. It's a powerful feeling and you'll wonder why you used alchohol as a crutch all those years. It really doesn't help, it makes you slow and stupid and therefore other people don't see you as a threat and become more comfortable around you. But when you get really drunk people just loose respect for you, they talk to you like you're a child, they laugh AT you, they provoke you into doing stupid things because you've stereotyped the role of the 'dancing monkey'. Give it up and see the difference. You may be more annoyed by the people around you but the control factor alone is well worth it.