What the heck is going on here? Ex-stripper!

[ryanbo29]

Hey guys,

I found a girl that is outlasting our princples..I only call once a week / go out once a week. You might recall a super hot girl I was dating in January that had sex with me on the 2nd and 3rd date, then pulled back. She cancelled a date on me. I pulled back as well. She got reinterested, asked me out we took it slow (1 date a week, 1 call a week) and she eventually asked me to have sex again.

Well last week she revealed to me her biggest secret: she's an ex-stripper. I thought she was beginning to confide to me.

Then on Wednesday night she had a hectic moment and called me..After 2 hours of calming her down,I joked 'it'll be ok, we can joke about it on Friday or something' And she replied she was "busy all weekend Friday Im moving, Saturday Im cleaning, Sunday I talk to my land lord".

Umm that doesn't take all day and she said she needed a weekend 2 weeks ago to move as well.. And I know she did.. but two weekends? And "moving" to an apartment does not take two weekends.

Well I got annoyed and told her that I thought it was weird that we've been going out for 4 months and she can't make time for 3 weekends this month. She agreed it was weird, and tried to make excuses. I told her that I didn't want to pressure her into making time, but that I tend to close up to people that don't seem to make an effort. She told me not to threaten her. I told her that wasn't the point and she changed the subject.

The next morning, Thurs, I txted her asking if she's ok (from her ordeal) she replied yes, thank you for helping her and that we should talk later. I Txt back to give me a call later. It's now Satruday and I haven't heard from her.

Anyway, keep in mind she has a profile on Yahoo that she doesnt think I know about.. but what is going on here.. 4 months of dating.. and she cancelled one date and roped off 2 weekends in 2 months.

Am I overreacting? If not, how should I proceed?

Thank you. I know it's a long post.

Ryan

 

[tmpgstx]

Ex-stripper .. bad news Ryan. You can't even call that dating with her, very likely having sex with others right now too. Why do you think she doesn't have two entire weekends available? Alot of them hook and do drugs on the side .. am sure you know this. There are exceptions, however very rare that she is worthwhile and all having been a stripper.

 

[ryanbo29]

I guess I should add more to this..

She gave up stripping 2 years ago. She's now in a professional white collar marketing job. Just got promoted as well.. But im sure some values still linger..

 

[jprjrjr]

I don't agree with everything PRL says, but "once a ho, always a ho"...Don't let the white collar job fool you.

 

[MindOverMatter]

it's obvious that you are looking for a girl that will look forward to, and go out of her way to spend time with you.

you have a girl that looks at you as just another option. she'll be with you if there's nothing (or nobody) better around, otherwise she'll distance herself and give you excuses.

you want GIRL A, but you have a GIRL B. what you have to realize is that you cannot change GIRL B into GIRL A. instead of trying to change her, you should leave her ass and keep dating girl after girl until you get yourself a GIRL A.

p.s. don't trust strippers man, and get yourself tested if you haven't already.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Originally posted by jprjrjr
I don't agree with everything PRL says, but "once a ho, always a ho"...Don't let the white collar job fool you.

Well, she can be an ex repentant ho - if that is what he is looking for than so be it! Although this girl is obviously still hoing as testified by DJ Ryan.

I don't think he is looking for a LTR with this hor, if he is then let him suffer the drama and consequences!!! Hors are damaged goods and ex-stripper hors are damaged in the head that is beyond repair!!!

 

[Lost In Translation]

some tough love for you DJ ryan

Quote - ryanbo29
I found a girl that is outlasting our princples

thats not correct

she has got it all over YOU because YOU are NOT following the principles on sosuave

you are playing checkers and she is playing chess

Quote - ryanbo29
I only call once a week / go out once a week

you dont see her very often you are just her boyfriend on the side

Quote - ryanbo29
Well last week she revealed to me her biggest secret: she's an ex-stripper. I thought she was beginning to confide to me.

she is an ex drug addict stripper read PROSTITUTE

and you feel special because she told you this ?

HAHAHAHA wait... HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

Quote - ryanbo29
Then on Wednesday night she had a hectic moment and called me..After 2 hours of calming her down

save the drama for your mama ( ice cube )

thats what you should have been thinking ryan

2 hours to calm her down ? wtf ?

in my opinion that shows a few screws lose in her head

Quote - ryanbo29
I joked 'it'll be ok, we can joke about it on Friday or something' And she replied she was "busy all weekend Friday Im moving, Saturday Im cleaning, Sunday I talk to my land lord".

ryan she is your gf right ? she is moving

AND YOU DIDN'T KNOW WHEN ?

great communication in this relationship

Quote - ryanbo29
Umm that doesn't take all day and she said she needed a weekend 2 weeks ago to move as well.. And I know she did.. but two weekends? And "moving" to an apartment does not take two weekends.

she moving again ?

i love it she doesn't even feel you are smart enough to bother with a fresh excuse to go f*ck some other guy on a weekend

AND YOU ARE LIKE..... OK....

Quote - ryanbo29
Well I got annoyed and told her that I thought it was weird that we've been going out for 4 months and she can't make time for 3 weekends this month.

yes ryan you have a brain and your brain says SHE IS A CHEATING WH0RE

listen to that little voice

Quote - ryanbo29
She agreed it was weird, and tried to make excuses.

this is my favourite part

the mind of a wh0re

she agrees that its weird

weird = playing you

AHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

then still PLAYS YOU

and you take it ? ryan WHAT ARE YOU DOING ?

Quote - ryanbo29
Anyway, keep in mind she has a profile on Yahoo that she doesnt think I know about.. but what is going on here.. 4 months of dating.. and she cancelled one date and roped off 2 weekends in 2 months.

she is seeing other people thats why she has a secret profile on yahoo

she is f*cking other dudes ryan

Quote - ryanbo29
Am I overreacting? If not, how should I proceed?

GET THE F*CK OUT OF DODGE !

 

[TedJustAdmitIt]

Yeah...what he^ said.

 

[optimist prime]

Can you provide the profile link? Would like to see this ho!

 

[Bonhomme]

FB or not FB?

That is the question.

If the answer is "FB," industrial-strength condoms are the corollary.

 

[Lost In Translation]

Quote - Bonhomme
FB or not FB?
That is the question

LOL

why stop there ?


Pimp her out or not Pimp her out

NOW THAT IS THE QUESTION


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[ryanbo29]

Can you provide the profile link? Would like to see this ho!

Yeah.. that's a good way to ask for it.

And to someone else's question about my being happy she confideded to me. I can see why that looked weird. Basically she's been slow to open up about things, and I had to tell you how she did end up disclosing it.

By the way, she called at 2pm today, I didn't answer. She didn't leave a message.

 

[ryanbo29]

some tough love for you DJ ryan

Quote - ryanbo29
I found a girl that is outlasting our princples

thats not correct

she has got it all over YOU because YOU are NOT following the principles on sosuave

you are playing checkers and she is playing chess

Quote - ryanbo29
I only call once a week / go out once a week

you dont see her very often you are just her boyfriend on the side

We are just dating. We haven't said we're each other's girl / boy friend.. Although we've been going out for about 4 months.

Quote - ryanbo29
Well last week she revealed to me her biggest secret: she's an ex-stripper. I thought she was beginning to confide to me.

she is an ex drug addict stripper read PROSTITUTE

and you feel special because she told you this ?

HAHAHAHA wait... HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

I don't feel special. But I had to bring up how she ended up telling me.

Quote - ryanbo29
Then on Wednesday night she had a hectic moment and called me..After 2 hours of calming her down

save the drama for your mama ( ice cube )

thats what you should have been thinking ryan

Sorta was.

2 hours to calm her down ? wtf ?

in my opinion that shows a few screws lose in her head

Maybe.

Quote - ryanbo29
I joked 'it'll be ok, we can joke about it on Friday or something' And she replied she was "busy all weekend Friday Im moving, Saturday Im cleaning, Sunday I talk to my land lord".

ryan she is your gf right ? she is moving

She's not my girlfriend. And she's moving to another part of the city.

AND YOU DIDN'T KNOW WHEN ?

great communication in this relationship

I do know when. I mentioned that earlier.

Quote - ryanbo29
Umm that doesn't take all day and she said she needed a weekend 2 weeks ago to move as well.. And I know she did.. but two weekends? And "moving" to an apartment does not take two weekends.

she moving again ?

i love it she doesn't even feel you are smart enough to bother with a fresh excuse to go f*ck some other guy on a weekend

Now that's a valid point.

AND YOU ARE LIKE..... OK....

Quote - ryanbo29
Well I got annoyed and told her that I thought it was weird that we've been going out for 4 months and she can't make time for 3 weekends this month.

yes ryan you have a brain and your brain says SHE IS A CHEATING WH0RE

She's not my girlfriend. We havent had that talk. That's why I feel like I'm in a gray area. Technically she isnt required to be with just me and vice-versa.

listen to that little voice

Quote - ryanbo29
She agreed it was weird, and tried to make excuses.

this is my favourite part

the mind of a wh0re

she agrees that its weird

weird = playing you

AHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

then still PLAYS YOU

and you take it ? ryan WHAT ARE YOU DOING ?

I haven't taken it. I think that's what calling her out and saying I think it's weird is about. How I proceed now is whether I take it or not.

Quote - ryanbo29
Anyway, keep in mind she has a profile on Yahoo that she doesnt think I know about.. but what is going on here.. 4 months of dating.. and she cancelled one date and roped off 2 weekends in 2 months.

she is seeing other people thats why she has a secret profile on yahoo

she is f*cking other dudes ryan

Perhaps..probably

Quote - ryanbo29
Am I overreacting? If not, how should I proceed?

GET THE F*CK OUT OF DODGE That's possible That's possible

She called this afternoon and I ignored the call. She didn't leave a msg. Any other tips?

 

[backbreaker]

my gosh,

where do you guys get off thinking that all strippers are these skank sluts who sit in their bedroom and have guys in the living room with n umbers in their hand, waiting to get their turn.

STIPPERS ALL IN ALL, AREN' THAT BAD.

There are some ****ed up ones, don't get it twisted, but you would be suprised that strippers, as f unny as it may sound, can be pretty darn normal.

I know 6 strippers, 2 I worked wtih, one is my GF's sister and three just from going to strp clubs (one of them I had a relaiionship with).. Out of all of thoose women, only really 1 had a problem that you don't normally find every other day.

My GF's sister stripped in colelge to help pay tutition... today she is married wtih 2 kids and works as an arobics instrutor. I didn't even know she stripped until a month ago.

Another one I know now is a manager at Dillards and is married to a contractor and has a baby boy.

One of the strippers I know is only stripping because her husband is disabled right now, and bills have to be paid.

LIke I said, some are ****ed up in the head, I will not argue that, but every stripper you see isn't a drug infested slut.

The one I ****ed had some mental problems, and even they werenn't THAT bad, but I had other options that were more enticing... but she was 2 years younger than me and made damn near as much as I did, I liked that.


Stop with the damn hbo specials.


This women is probably flaking on you..... normal women flake to.

I doubt she is out ****ing other m en.

And yes, moving CAN take that long. I knwo for one I didn' tle let a soul in my house into it was completely furnished ,which took almost a month.

NOt sayng that that is what is happening, but it is possible.

All in all however, I would move on... not because I think she is otu ****ing all of these guys, just that you can do better than someone flaking on you like that.

 

[Rockadeimis]

Offer to help her move...if she doesn't want you to help then I'd be even more suspicious. And as far as the yahoo profile goes...I was involved with a girl just like this, she was banging all of Long Island. I wouldn't be surprised if this chick was out there almost every weekend with some new guy. As a matter of fact I suspect this is the case. ryanbo29, she could make time if she wanted to. What does your gut say?

 

[ryanbo29]

Great posts, guys.

I guess I thought about it and something is giving me reservations... her lease did end on Sunday.. Which would mean she would have to move the rest of her stuff out on Friday, then clean on Saturday, and turn the keys over on Sunday. She did call me at 2pm, which I did ignore...she didn't leave a message, tho.

So she might be telling the truth here.. but my gut tells me she's seeing others. but who am I to ***** about this as we are not exclusive.

What should I do? Go out once more and see what happens? Should I return the messageless call or wait for another?

Help!

 

[sexual_intellectual]

She's doing everything she can to let you know she sees you as a low priority. If you can live with that, and she turns you on, stick around, and get yourself other girls on the side too.

If semi-regular sex without commitment isn't what you're after, she's a waste of your time.

 

[Lost In Translation]

LOL ryan ok if you wanna get technical YOU GOT ME

nowhere did you say she was your girlfriend

BUT the amount of " i care " made me think that this was the case

you only have a right to care as much as this if she is your gf

but she is not your gf so what the f*ck am i doing here lol

you going out for 4 months ?

going out in my Australian language means BF & GF

my bad

i guess you would have to say " seeing each other for 4 months " for me to digest that she was not your gf

then there is the " HECTIC MOMENT "

and you rushed to the scene to offer solice to her shattered spirit

but obviously thats a normal not boyfriend not AFC thing to do


so next time i guess she needs to call someone you can say

who you gunna call ?

GHOSTBUSTERS ! MUAA AAA AAA AAH!


just messing bro but you owe me 50% of this confusion


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****EXTREME SARCASM UP AHEAD****

you post made my day ( i laughed for 10 minutes )

Quote - backbreaker
where do you guys get off thinking that all strippers are these skank sluts

HELLO CAPTAIN SAVE A H0 AND WELCOME TO THE SHOW

i guess i would get this idea that strippers are skank sluts because

they sell their DIGNITY for the amusment of men

and for an extra few hundred $ they will take me to a private room ?

gee no idea where i get this idea that stripping is something i wouldn't want my wife or the mother of my children doing

true the dollar bills stuffed in her g string each night could help the kids pay for school lunches

yeah man i see the light now it's like a perfectly normal and healthy profession choice

no bad men running these clubs no organsied crime , pimps and pushers

nice friendly people

WAKE THE F*CK UP

STIPPERS ALL IN ALL, AREN' THAT BAD

yeah as long as they not those fat strippers like a fat-o-gram

that $hit makes me wanna vomit

There are some ****ed up ones

you sure man ? you got me convinced they SAY NO TO DRUGS

don't get it twisted

thats it man kick it with me alittle

but you would be suprised that strippers, as f unny as it may sound, can be pretty darn normal

YOU GOT ME

yeah i feel surprised VERY surprised

they sound normal sorta like a soccer mom that dances eh ?

I know 6 strippers, 2 I worked wtih

man you worked with them ?

you were a male stripper ?

damn dude that explains why you know they are pretty darn normal

one is my GF's sister

keep it in the family man, just keep it in the family

and three just from going to strp clubs (one of them I had a relaiionship with)

wow and 3 like you just met ? total of 6 and you peddling industry statistics

Out of all of thoose women, only really 1 had a problem that you don't normally find every other day.

every other day ?

you claim to work with them , they are your in-laws ( quality ) and date them

but you only know 6 ?

what the other 80 strippers hate on you cause you know they are just good girls posing as h0es ?

don't let them haters stop you gaining wisdom

My GF's sister stripped in colelge to help pay tutition

i guess McDonald's wasn't hiring at the time

today she is married wtih 2 kids and works as an arobics instrutor

well at least she gets to keep dancing :woo:

I didn't even know she stripped until a month ago.

but you know them enough to give advice about how good they are

One of the strippers I know is only stripping because her husband is disabled right now, and bills have to be paid

yeah man " bills have to be paid " and that takes money

it's not like the lady could go get a job cause they only pay you in MONEY ..... oh wait....

stripping is better exercise ?

good cardio ?

maybe aerobics instrcutor is something you could suggest to her

I will not argue that, but every stripper you see isn't a drug infested slut.

ok in every 100 strippers how many use drugs ?

The one I ****ed had some mental problems

who had mental problems lol ?

you f*cking a stripper with mental problems

who had a mental problem ?

gimme a second.... HAHAHAHAHA

and even they werenn't THAT bad

yeah like not bad mental problems

umm... help me out here like not bad mental problems ?

but I had other options that were more enticing

what could be more enticing than a stripper with mental problems ?

but she was 2 years younger than me and made damn near as much as I did, I liked that

i just want to thankyou man you post has made me happy man you are a very funny guy

Stop with the damn hbo specials

ok i will call the producer and we'll work in a new show

like a reality show like cops but about strippers

and we have a different stripper walk us through her time each week

and we'll show that cops i mean strippers aren't all that bad

hookers with a heart of gold

we'll spin it as SEX AND THE CITY meets TITANIC meets RUSH HOUR 2

cater it to males aged 18 - 25 that think hookers

i mean strippers are lost little girls that need a daddy to love them

theme song can be that captain save a h0 song

foget HBO theres enough AFC's to make it pay per view

This women is probably flaking on you..... normal women flake to

flake is normal ?

but then you say

I would move on... not because I think she is otu ****ing all of these guys, just that you can do better than someone flaking on you like that

dump her for flaking ? but i thought you said....

and flaking is worse than f*cking other men ?

I doubt she is out ****ing other m en

you right man she is probably just giving therapy hugs for the broken hearted


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[bud1971]

Nice girls don't take their clothes off for money......

From hard experience I can tell you to never take a stripper seriously.......all of them are attention *****'s that will never change.

 

[Lost In Translation]

Quote - bud1971
Nice girls don't take their clothes off for money

lol you summed up what it took me like 300 words to say

i gotta learn to make it more simple



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