"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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What makes a good café?

Gubby

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Aside from the foods and coffees. What makes a place have a really good vibe, get the inspiration juices flowing? What were the characteristics of the best cafés you ever been to? What wakes up your muse?

Apart from weed.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Ambience and good service are keys to my cafe enjoyment. Good background music along with an interesting theme and decor will keep me coming back. The key is for the patron to feel appreciated and welcome. Cheers!
 

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Comfortable furnitures, a little sunlight, but not too much natural sunlight. I have no opinions on whether or not they should have fireplaces, it doesn't bug me.
 

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Off the top of my head:

1. Music
Play a wide variety of interesting genres and know exactly WHEN to play them. For example, early in the day you could rock downtempo, acid jazz, triphop, soul at comfortable listening levels. At night after diner you can add some BPMs to get the place hopping.

2. Lighting
My biggest pet peeve are places with terrible lighting. (Think hospitals, government offices and other misc places of misery.) Use warm, natural lighting, preferably with a dimmer for more control. Also, indirect light makes people look better, so think wall sconces and fixtures that illuminate of walls and ceiling instead of shining in people's faces.

3. Amazing Coffee
First step would be to get a decent espresso machine.. they are a bit pricey, but a good one will last you decades. Experiment with different blends to find a unique signature flavor. Me, I like a blend of Kenyan, Cuban and Columbian coffees.

4. Decor
It's good to be stylish, but some places are overkill. A great cafe almost feels like an extension of your house. Maybe it has some modern/designer touches, but the overall feel is homey - sofas, easy chairs, etc. It should be inviting.

5. Terrace
Huge bonus would be some tables and chairs on the street or in a garden to enjoy some outdoor vibes.

6. Service by hot chicks
^^ No explanation needed ;)
 
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