What is the point of an "open" marriage?

[MatureDJ]

I was looking at this article, and ti got me thinking:

http://www.marieclaire.com/sex-love/a17341/the-next-sexual-revolution-open-marriage/

I've always thought that an open marriage (at least for a nominally monogamous marriage) was just the acquiescence of the partner with the lower sexual market value to the partner with the higher sexual market value, so that the higher one would at the very least stay nominally attached, both for at least semi-regular sexual relations (mainly important for the case of the man being in an inferiors position) and for raising children in an otherwise standard nuclear family way, as well as for various financial, and even social standing reasons. I just have to think that a man that submits to this is just being a beta, which makes me wonder how, outside of wanting the "family situation", a woman could find herself attracted to such a loser. The situation that makes much more sense is that of the man wanting to be like Zeus and do other women, and with the woman being at low sexual market value (even if she has kept decently slender), and the man wanting to take advantage of his increased value. I guess that this type of unequal marriage demand could be just simply one of the partners announcing in public what (s)he plans to do, and be willing for the other to say "no way" as an easy excuse to break up the marriage, rather than deal with deception after-the-fact.

I suppose that a truly balanced open marriage (i.e., both partners wanting to fool around, not just the lower one agreeing to it while silently resenting it) could be both not really wanting to be married, but still enjoying a "home base" marriage, perhaps supplying sex to the other if (s)he is going through a dry spell, and for the advantages previously noted

As for myself, I could not see myself being demeaned by my wife like this. If she wants to fool around, I would demand and end to the marriage, although if I were still attracted to her, I could see her in the fvck buddy rotation. (My attitude is that if I ever got divorced after having children, I would see absolutely no reason to re-marry.)

 

[sodbuster]

With all the "girl power" running rampant, she thinks she can get d1ck form the hot guy and money from the chump. There aren't many men as confidant as Trump to make it work the other way. That's the ONLY way I'd tolerate it..... if it was ME doing it. If not, why should she get the benefit of my money full time?

 

[Bible_Belt]

I don't believe in monogamy.

 

[beforeimgone]

Op,

I understand where you are coming from. One partner is the more desired partner which means the less desired partner has to put up with an open relationship or face getting a divorce. It's sad, but common.

Are you married?

 

[Desdinova]

Having an open marriage = having the ability to be a wh0re with a safety net

 

[speed dawg]

Is it just me or does the whole notion of a 'partner' just piss you off? I hate that word when it comes to marriage and sex. Mate is much better. You aren't a partner in a business.

 

[zekko]

Is it just me or does the whole notion of a 'partner' just piss you off? I hate that word when it comes to marriage and sex. Mate is much better. You aren't a partner in a business.

I like the word partner, I think it's an apt description. You're not a partner in business, you're a partner in life. If you have a good, healthy relationship, you work together to get through it.

 

[dustmuffin]

With all the "girl power" running rampant, she thinks she can get d1ck form the hot guy and money from the chump. There aren't many men as confidant as Trump to make it work the other way. That's the ONLY way I'd tolerate it..... if it was ME doing it. If not, why should she get the benefit of my money full time?

There are idiots that will go for this. I wouldn't . if I am enslaved so is she. If she sugests open marraige i will open the door and tell her to leave. End of story.

 

[evan12]

Many women already doing that but without title of "open relationship" , I was in a company christams party and I can tell many husbands already lost their control on their wivies and I can tell if the wife decided to go with someone most likely the husband will do nothing.

 

[YawataNoKami]

Open marriage = Been a wh0re without consequences.
Just another excuse to slvts are gonna slvts.

 

[parkthebus]

I'm only 19 and I've only had one LTR so I don't know if this is right or not but at the moment this is what I think is the healthiest relationship structure. The man ****s other women but emotionally commits to one woman and that one woman is devoted only to him. Seems to be the best way to keep the attraction alive while maintaining the family structure. I've never tried it though so I could be wrong.