"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

Read more...

What is Genuine Coolness?

Roly

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Jun 30, 2004
Messages
286
Reaction score
2
Age
40
Location
South Padre Island
"When I look around, I always learn something, and that is to always be yourself, express yourself, to have faith in yourself. Do not go out and look for a successful personality and duplicate him. They always copy mannerism; they never start from the root of their being: that is, how can I be me?" - Bruce Lee

Genuine Coolness- Coolness from within.

I now know that this is the only way to be truly cool. It does not mean being popular, being well known and having a lot of external stuff. True coolness is how you feel with yourself, doing things on your own terms and not giving a damn what people really think of you and feeling pretty damn good about it. In a way I devote the rest of my life to studying, learning and experiencing this concept. - Genuine Coolness. Which means a cool state of mind and lifestyle. Well, I've learned a lot knowledge and intelligent wise, but experiencing and applying what I have learned. I've got a long ways to go. I know I've got to experience and learn this stuff first hand, reading and just taking down notes is nothing but mental masturbation. But hell, I'm glad I have the right mindset toward this, but I know I've got to experience this stuff first hand and find out what works for me. I also learned that being Genuine Cool means you've got to be cool with your life and everything around you. That is be thankful for what you have and be thankful for where you are now in life. When I first started the quest of self improvement, I kept wishing that I was this or I was living in this or that, I wished that I was popular and all that crap. And you know what, after opening up and putting some more effort to be social, I did get popular, since I'm probably the only Filipino dude in my school, ( which made me really stand out.)I didn't have to try so hard. Hell, I'm probably known as that " cool filipino dude", as my social life expanded, so did peer pressures as well and then it hits me, I became a freaking people pleaser. I became popular alright, but I still was NOT happy. Then I remember that quote from the book - " Don't Sweat the Small Stuff"," wherever you go, there you are". It means to stop wishing you were this and that or were in or that in life and learn to be a more generally happy person and be thankful for what you have. This one was a big one for me, here I am 19 yrs old, already over thinking life. I believe it's great to have goals and cool to accomplish them and all, but you've got to ENJOY the Journey as well as accomplishing something you know. So these are the first lessons I learned with Genuine Coolness which is probably going to evolve over time as I learn more: Be Independent and Be happy where you are and stop mental masturbating and analyzing life, instead experience and learn it.
I'm fascinated with this stuff, w/ being Genuinely Cool so if you guys got a different insight on this, feel free and express yourself.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

Read more...

ShizamDaMan

Master Don Juan
Joined
Mar 26, 2003
Messages
1,113
Reaction score
3
Being genuinely cool is when you just don't give a f*ck about impressing people, and yet your actions and character do exactly that.
 

SELF-MASTERY

Banned
Joined
Dec 15, 2004
Messages
1,971
Reaction score
7
I think larry david's character is cool. He does and says anything he wants, doesn' t relly second guess himself. Some guy on here has the perfect Emerson quote that is pretty fitting for this thread---"Don’t be too timid and squeamish about your actions. All life is an experiment"

Some days I'm cool, others Im crippled by neurosis. Ihad a pretty cool day yesterday, didn't give a fk, was honest in a interview--without being apolgetic, even picked up to women.
 

Jay-X

Master Don Juan
Joined
Aug 26, 2004
Messages
1,327
Reaction score
1
Location
Italy
Originally posted by ShizamDaMan
Being genuinely cool is when you just don't give a f*ck about impressing people, and yet your actions and character do exactly that.
never coolness has been best defined!
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

Read more...

silverwex

Master Don Juan
Joined
Apr 27, 2003
Messages
1,306
Reaction score
5
Age
44
Location
Eire
Personally, I think Clint Eastwood - esp. in the Dirty Harry films - is coolness personified!

He the man!
 
Top