"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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What if I told her all the funny stories on first date?

sosousage

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I have some weird mechanism - I usually tell girls on first date some funny stories about me (now here comes a problem where I meet 3 girls and I dont know what story I told about to each girl but theres bigger one).

The usual outcome is that they laugh, then I try to talk a bit more sexual. Sometimes I get a kiss on first date sometimes not (Last time I tried but it failed because she was shy (too many people around)), but before I tried in dark place with other woman and it succeeded.

Now first date doesnt always go that perfect (for example they dont want to go inside for a drink, then we dont have a situation isolated from people for a kiss, and I cant talk sexual because shes a virgin). In this case things go slower and kiss is for example on second date.

But to be honest I don't have infinite stories to tell these girls about. How should then I make my second dates look like? Sometimes other girl is interesting enough that she cant stop talking but thats rare. Right now im dating some really shy girls.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Asasione

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I have some weird mechanism - I usually tell girls on first date some funny stories about me (now here comes a problem where I meet 3 girls and I dont know what story I told about to each girl but theres bigger one).

The usual outcome is that they laugh, then I try to talk a bit more sexual. Sometimes I get a kiss on first date sometimes not (Last time I tried but it failed because she was shy (too many people around)), but before I tried in dark place with other woman and it succeeded.

Now first date doesnt always go that perfect (for example they dont want to go inside for a drink, then we dont have a situation isolated from people for a kiss, and I cant talk sexual because shes a virgin). In this case things go slower and kiss is for example on second date.

But to be honest I don't have infinite stories to tell these girls about. How should then I make my second dates look like? Sometimes other girl is interesting enough that she cant stop talking but thats rare. Right now im dating some really shy girls.
You have a serious problem my friend, why do you feel the need to have some canned stories to make them laugh in the first place? I wish I knew how to explain this better but you should never have to consciously try to make people laugh, the persona you have is more important than the story itself, you can make people laugh with most stories depending on how you narrate it similar to how comedians exaggerate through voice changes, comparisons and other variables.

There's a great archive by Juggler that I suggest you look up on Fast Seduction forums, he talks a lot about learning to tell stories, everyday occurrences that happen can be amusing or interesting to others based on how you express yourself, it takes time time and practice however. You don't need to focus on making them laugh just focus on making the experience as interesting as possible for yourself, ask the girls questions and make some wild guesses on their personality, can be completely unrelated but I always try to enjoy myself first and foremost cause you'e the one qualifying whether she's good enough for you. Find out about her and mix in some stories in between you don't need to really talk about yourself too much, and spread out those particular stories between dates over several weeks than several dates, tweak the delivery based on reactions, I usually don't think about it since I do it all the time so it's not easy to explain right now.
 
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