Hey guys just a quick summary of things that I have internalized after approaching several girls every day for the past 9 months
1) saying anything is better than saying nothing. Just open your mouth and
say whatever comes up, even if it's ridiculous and silly.
2) have quick reflexes. you must train your mind and body to act quickly and fast from the time you see the girl you want to approach, to the moment you walk over and say hi, this must be done quickly, you cannot be in a state of lethargy, or slowness because you will not approach. YOU MUST BUILD MOMENTUM and be ready to take your body into immediate action.
3) The most powerful mental state you can have when approaching a female is BELIEVE with your whole being with full EXPECTANCY that the girl will be nice, receptive, and will be on her best behavior once you approach... this should be your reality period!!!
4) believe that you are the best thing that's ever happened to her and that you are a catch, and if you internalize this, it will come through in the way you carry yourself, your speech, your tone, eye contact. internalize this.
5) Cultivate DETACHMENT, and get rid of all outcome dependence. the more detached to the outcome you are, the more free you are to say whatever is in your mind, and to be outrageous and funny!!, which leads to attraction.
6)attraction is about being socially free. WORK HARD at achieving SOCIAL FREEDOM. this means the ability to say whatever is in your mind without inhibition and without shyness, the ability to say and do whatever you desire in any social situation. the more FREE you are, the more value you have in her eyes.
7) be EXPANSIVE!!!... as soon as you approach anyone, and you see a bit of positive reception from them, EXPAND, EXPAND!! that social interaction, this means pushing the interaction a bit, and adding pressure on her, making stronger eye contact, asking questions, getting the number, getting a date, going for kiss, expand expand,,, DETACHMENT PLUS SOCIAL FREEDOM PLUS EXPANSION OF SOCIAL SELF= attraction!!!
side note: when you are socially free, expansive, and detached, this generates an upward spiral of positive energy and momentum that captivates females and attracts them automatically. It is only when I find myself in this state of mind and body, when I'm able to quickly escalate and attract, get numbers, make-outs, and leading to sex. this expansion of your being means that you are constantly outpouring energy into your environment, you are sharing energy from within your self, and she feels it, which excites her. You are not trying to get something from her, you are sharing your energy with her... which leads to ATTRACTION, trying to get something from her, leads to rejection, or affection (friendzone).
sharing expansive social energy means, you are verbally free, you say silly funny things, bold and confident lines, you are funny, you make her laugh, you can be loud or not, because you are expansive, and you share your inner energy, this is what having inner value means, this cannot be faked.
8) Just as you need quick reflexes to get your body moving when you see the girl you want to approach. you MUST cultivate the ability to close the deal everytime you talk to a girl. WORK hard at being able to close (ask for number, kiss) etc, every set, every interaction until it becomes second nature.
9) practice being in a meditative state while talking to her (feeling of being at one with the world, with her) this will cause you to feel very present, and the more you do this with her, the more intense the experience for her. It kinda feels as if you are melting into her being and becoming one with her, so much presence that leads you to feel sexually aroused just by talking to her, and she will feel it too.
10) Believe in your dominant authority!!!,, this is soooo HUGE... girls respond and respect male leadership and dominance, you really have to treat them as if you are a cop who just pulled them over... you have to step into their world/boundary, and start telling them what do with grace.... (hey you, come over here, whats your name, I wanted to come meet you, give me your number.... authority authority authority!!!!
side note: presenting your authority must be done upfront, from the moment you open your mouth. as soon as you approach, she gets a feel of what you reality is, your perception, how attractive you believe yourself to be, how you think she should respond to you, what kind of experiences you have, and what kind of man you are. SO WORK HARD, at cultivating an attractive reality, and then be able to push this reality upfront with authority and CONGRUENCY!! as soon as you approach. this is the best way I can describe it.
11) Train your mind to enjoy every interaction, expect the interaction to be fun!!! to be entertaining, and to be sexually arousing experience for you, and it will!!!.... flirting with girls is supposed to be a FUN experience for both of you, attraction is based on this feeling of mutual fun. if you are approaching with a bitter attitude, very serious, or with an attitude that this is a chore, rather than the best hobby one can have. then you don't get it, and the girls will not want to flirt with you. expect girls to flirt with you.
12) the very BEST way to hook a girl and want her to become interested in continue talking to you when you approach, instead of walking away is for YOU to put yourself in PEAK states of self amuzement, motivation, enthusiasm, and passion for the only reason of being YOU. extreme self love, self admiration, for your life and the things you do, will cause you to talk to her with power, potency, vibrant, enthusiasm that will captivate her and will lead her to want to ask questions about you, who you are , what you do, why is this guy so vibrant??? she will want to know ( interest)
so work on improving yourself, fall in love with yourself, find yourself if you will, its not about the girl, it is never about the girl, it is not about seeing results, this journey is about finding the JOY OF BEING the kind of man you are becoming as a result of improving different areas of your life, the joy of being in love with yourself, will get you a lady...
well this are the ones I can think of the top of my head, I will add more later if needed
thanks!
1) saying anything is better than saying nothing. Just open your mouth and
say whatever comes up, even if it's ridiculous and silly.
2) have quick reflexes. you must train your mind and body to act quickly and fast from the time you see the girl you want to approach, to the moment you walk over and say hi, this must be done quickly, you cannot be in a state of lethargy, or slowness because you will not approach. YOU MUST BUILD MOMENTUM and be ready to take your body into immediate action.
3) The most powerful mental state you can have when approaching a female is BELIEVE with your whole being with full EXPECTANCY that the girl will be nice, receptive, and will be on her best behavior once you approach... this should be your reality period!!!
4) believe that you are the best thing that's ever happened to her and that you are a catch, and if you internalize this, it will come through in the way you carry yourself, your speech, your tone, eye contact. internalize this.
5) Cultivate DETACHMENT, and get rid of all outcome dependence. the more detached to the outcome you are, the more free you are to say whatever is in your mind, and to be outrageous and funny!!, which leads to attraction.
6)attraction is about being socially free. WORK HARD at achieving SOCIAL FREEDOM. this means the ability to say whatever is in your mind without inhibition and without shyness, the ability to say and do whatever you desire in any social situation. the more FREE you are, the more value you have in her eyes.
7) be EXPANSIVE!!!... as soon as you approach anyone, and you see a bit of positive reception from them, EXPAND, EXPAND!! that social interaction, this means pushing the interaction a bit, and adding pressure on her, making stronger eye contact, asking questions, getting the number, getting a date, going for kiss, expand expand,,, DETACHMENT PLUS SOCIAL FREEDOM PLUS EXPANSION OF SOCIAL SELF= attraction!!!
side note: when you are socially free, expansive, and detached, this generates an upward spiral of positive energy and momentum that captivates females and attracts them automatically. It is only when I find myself in this state of mind and body, when I'm able to quickly escalate and attract, get numbers, make-outs, and leading to sex. this expansion of your being means that you are constantly outpouring energy into your environment, you are sharing energy from within your self, and she feels it, which excites her. You are not trying to get something from her, you are sharing your energy with her... which leads to ATTRACTION, trying to get something from her, leads to rejection, or affection (friendzone).
sharing expansive social energy means, you are verbally free, you say silly funny things, bold and confident lines, you are funny, you make her laugh, you can be loud or not, because you are expansive, and you share your inner energy, this is what having inner value means, this cannot be faked.
8) Just as you need quick reflexes to get your body moving when you see the girl you want to approach. you MUST cultivate the ability to close the deal everytime you talk to a girl. WORK hard at being able to close (ask for number, kiss) etc, every set, every interaction until it becomes second nature.
9) practice being in a meditative state while talking to her (feeling of being at one with the world, with her) this will cause you to feel very present, and the more you do this with her, the more intense the experience for her. It kinda feels as if you are melting into her being and becoming one with her, so much presence that leads you to feel sexually aroused just by talking to her, and she will feel it too.
10) Believe in your dominant authority!!!,, this is soooo HUGE... girls respond and respect male leadership and dominance, you really have to treat them as if you are a cop who just pulled them over... you have to step into their world/boundary, and start telling them what do with grace.... (hey you, come over here, whats your name, I wanted to come meet you, give me your number.... authority authority authority!!!!
side note: presenting your authority must be done upfront, from the moment you open your mouth. as soon as you approach, she gets a feel of what you reality is, your perception, how attractive you believe yourself to be, how you think she should respond to you, what kind of experiences you have, and what kind of man you are. SO WORK HARD, at cultivating an attractive reality, and then be able to push this reality upfront with authority and CONGRUENCY!! as soon as you approach. this is the best way I can describe it.
11) Train your mind to enjoy every interaction, expect the interaction to be fun!!! to be entertaining, and to be sexually arousing experience for you, and it will!!!.... flirting with girls is supposed to be a FUN experience for both of you, attraction is based on this feeling of mutual fun. if you are approaching with a bitter attitude, very serious, or with an attitude that this is a chore, rather than the best hobby one can have. then you don't get it, and the girls will not want to flirt with you. expect girls to flirt with you.
12) the very BEST way to hook a girl and want her to become interested in continue talking to you when you approach, instead of walking away is for YOU to put yourself in PEAK states of self amuzement, motivation, enthusiasm, and passion for the only reason of being YOU. extreme self love, self admiration, for your life and the things you do, will cause you to talk to her with power, potency, vibrant, enthusiasm that will captivate her and will lead her to want to ask questions about you, who you are , what you do, why is this guy so vibrant??? she will want to know ( interest)
so work on improving yourself, fall in love with yourself, find yourself if you will, its not about the girl, it is never about the girl, it is not about seeing results, this journey is about finding the JOY OF BEING the kind of man you are becoming as a result of improving different areas of your life, the joy of being in love with yourself, will get you a lady...
well this are the ones I can think of the top of my head, I will add more later if needed
thanks!
