What exactly makes a woman a "cougar"?

[SW15]

neurotypical who doesn't want kids.

That would be a fair assessment of what I am now. I never tell women I don't want kids though. Telling pre-menopausal women that you don't want kids does tend to cause women to dismiss you. If the subject arises, I tell them that I am open to kids.

Many of the women I've dated over time did not prioritize having kids. The majority used birth control and I was using condoms as well.

Childless, unmarried White women with a bachelor's degree or higher who live in bigger cities often aren't prioritizing having children.

There is a reason this happened in 2023.

https://www.cnn.com/2024/08/20/health/us-birth-rate-fertility-final-data-2023/index.html

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[SW15]

Funny thing about the 6 year age gap you mentioned (with the woman being older), I don't even really view that as an age gap (probably because of the massive age gaps I've had). The woman I had my last date with was 6 years older. People who know me joked about how I finally picked a woman my age for a change.

Most people would consider a dating relationship where a woman was 5-9 years older than the man to be unconventional. That's not generally accepted cougar territory (cougar is typically viewed as 10+ years older), but it is considered unusual. People will wonder what the man sees in the woman.

A woman who is 2-4 years older than a man is often considered unusual as well. There are plenty of couples where the woman is older but less than 2 years older and most people don't consider that an older woman couple or even that unusual. A lot of times, there are couple formations where the woman is slightly older (less than 2 years older) and the couple formed before the man was 25 and had more of a selection of younger women.