Neuro Linguistic Programming
Something a little similar is Speed Seduction.
I would strongly advise you to google the hell out of both of them and do some reading.
You need to ask yourself if this guy is making your life better in any way. It doesn't sound to me like he is. His history shows that he hurts people, ie his ex. Just from what you're posting it is OBVIOUS to me that he's intentionally trying to upset you. It even sounds like he could be a member of this forum or one of the others similar to it. Just by what he's saying it is his belief that by creating emotional upheaval in your life and screwing with your head that it's going to clear the pathway into your pants.
Unless you want to be used you should cut this guy loose. There are plenty of good looking and interesting guys out there who won't treat you like sh*t.