"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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what does it mean when Women...

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...get all playful (ie pretending to hit you or stab you with knitting needles..lol) and say "Oh my god i'm just in the funniest mood"?, clearly this is because she is vibing off you right?

...and I think another sign of interest is when a Woman turns around and says to "you are such a ****" and pretend to be annoyed with you but are actually enjoying the way you are acting around them...would this be right? (quite often this happens when I'm around good friends because I will be giving her **** but in a fun way)

I think I know what all this means, I just like to get other peoples insights and views.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Originally posted by Jaun_Don
...get all playful (ie pretending to hit you or stab you with knitting needles..lol) and say "Oh my god i'm just in the funniest mood"?, clearly this is because she is vibing off you right?
Oh yeah, it's all because of you... :rolleyes:

But seriously I agree w/crowes, we need more infor. But that's not to say that we'd be able to say specifically what this chick is doing. It's a toss up whether she knows herself! :p
 

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any kind of touching is a good sign of interest
( well unless you touches you with the barrel of a Smith & Wesson ! )

telling you that you are #### needs some context but if a woman 'really' is annoyed with you; believe you me - YOU WILL KNOW !

so my suggestion is; play it up, touch her back, nick some stuff of hers and let her try to get it back, if you end up on the floor fighting; great !

KINO KINO KINO

as to you being ####
reply like;
yeah I know, but you love me for it, right ?
( remember the sly smile and grin and pinch her too or better put you arm around her waist / shoulder and start walking; lets have some coffee at that cafe down the road - AND dont wait for her YES - just presume that she'll want to )

enjoy it this could be fun

/ scordate
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Originally posted by scordate
any kind of touching is a good sign of interest
( well unless you touches you with the barrel of a Smith & Wesson ! )

telling you that you are #### needs some context but if a woman 'really' is annoyed with you; believe you me - YOU WILL KNOW !

so my suggestion is; play it up, touch her back, nick some stuff of hers and let her try to get it back, if you end up on the floor fighting; great !

KINO KINO KINO

as to you being ####
reply like;
yeah I know, but you love me for it, right ?
( remember the sly smile and grin and pinch her too or better put you arm around her waist / shoulder and start walking; lets have some coffee at that cafe down the road - AND dont wait for her YES - just presume that she'll want to )

enjoy it this could be fun

/ scordate

:cheer: awesome reply, yeah it is fun and you know what else happened, she called me from work (and this happens very rarely) to tell me an answer to a puzzle i was doing the other day, why could she not wait until she got home to tell me?...(not only that she played my phone message to all her work buddys and they found it really funny).

I just notice the way she is around me is really different now, she is all giggly and playful and a lot of fun really, she goes overseas tommorow for a few days and she will be missed but yeah ...oh and the context of being called a ****...wasn't an annoyed one that's for sure...another thing is why is she asking me about other girls, at home last night she asked me if I had heard from this one girl and I said 'not tellling'...haaa haaa...why is she interested in my affairs?.

I'd be lying if I said that I didn't want this girl, but again I stress I won't be getting hung up on her like last time there is no point and it's no big deal besides I'M THE PRIZE not her, she NEEDS me, I don't NEED her.



:)
 

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she asked you about another girl ?

( why she asked ? hey - you KNOW why !
she wants to know the competition and/or try to get some reassurance from you that she is numero uno )

but you stayed cool; GOODY !
save for later to let her feel secure about you

oi, you have that girl wrapped up good and tidy

10 to one that she'll phone you each day she is away

so be prepared for her next 'game';
setting agreed times for her to call you;
i.e. where you sit and wait for her call !

just say; hey you got my cell phone number and there is voice mail - we'll stay in touch

good to hear some success stories too !

/ scordate
 

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Originally posted by scordate
she asked you about another girl ?

( why she asked ? hey - you KNOW why !
she wants to know the competition and/or try to get some reassurance from you that she is numero uno )

but you stayed cool; GOODY !
save for later to let her feel secure about you

oi, you have that girl wrapped up good and tidy

10 to one that she'll phone you each day she is away

so be prepared for her next 'game';
setting agreed times for her to call you;
i.e. where you sit and wait for her call !

just say; hey you got my cell phone number and there is voice mail - we'll stay in touch

good to hear some success stories too !

/ scordate
I appreciate your comments but I don't want to get ahead of myself here, I mean in her mind it's probably just us bieng good friends but I can sense things and I sense that she feels very comfortable around me and enjoys my company... I can't see her calling me when she is away I mean she might but I would doubt it, the fun and games will continue when she gets back that's for sure and I want her to think of me when she is away you know.
 

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i know what you mean

but there comes a time,

and I think that time is there already or approaching very fast

for the fun and games to progress into ......something more, ya know ?

i have made this mistake soooooooo
many times;

ya know having so much fun
trying to wait for the right window of opportunity

that i blew it and ventured into the safe-boyfriend LJBF guy

KINO KINO KINO

/ scordate
 

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Originally posted by scordate
i know what you mean

but there comes a time,

and I think that time is there already or approaching very fast

for the fun and games to progress into ......something more, ya know ?

i have made this mistake soooooooo
many times;

ya know having so much fun
trying to wait for the right window of opportunity

that i blew it and ventured into the safe-boyfriend LJBF guy

KINO KINO KINO

/ scordate
I admire your positivity man, so what should I do when she gets back?...what would you do?

Part of me wants her and another part of me doesn't...

I need to talk to one of her good female friends or even her gay ones they will know the truth.

For all I know she could have been involved in massive sex orgies while overseas or met some bad boy loser, but she hasn't had a man since she has lived here (over 3 months) so I'm not sure.:crackup:
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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whoaw - hold your horses

you do not, repeat, DO NOT want to be talking with her friends about her

this is not 6' grade where Susan told Mary that Ann had told her in confidence that she liked Tommy so that Mary could tell her brother who played football with Tommy ! capisce ?

if you have concerns about STD's you can simply walk away or take proper precautions

but that is relevant to whoever you might meet

what you do ?

you keep the game going and letting it get more intense all the time; never letting it get stale

KINO will get you a clear indication of whether or not she 'really' want to explore you

for all we know, she could be an attention seeker that thrives on flirting

i cant tell you exactly what you should do, because it all depends of your interactions

next time you meet listen carefully to what she says and find something funny or something that you can misinterpret in a flirtacious way

use words that have sexual implications in an innocent context and see if she picks up

the obvious ones are; touching her hair pretending to brush of whatever (leaf ?), feeling material of some of her clothes

watch her reactions and if positive; proceed !

/scordate
 

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Thanks for your all your advice scordate but I won't be persuing this attention seeking, game playing *****...I am hooking up with a lovely girl tonight...and what's the bet the drama queen will get jealous and act wierd around her when she comes over just like she did with my ex, you know it's funny but she said to her Mother on the phone the other night that she wouldn't want girls staying over too much if myself and my other housemate got girlfriends and I said to her well the same goes for you...who does this girl think she is?.

I'm the leaseholder and will have whoever I want over, whenever I want.
 

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Originally posted by Jaun_Don
...get all playful (ie pretending to hit you or stab you with knitting needles..lol) and say "Oh my god i'm just in the funniest mood"?, clearly this is because she is vibing off you right?

...and I think another sign of interest is when a Woman turns around and says to "you are such a ****" and pretend to be annoyed with you but are actually enjoying the way you are acting around them...would this be right? (quite often this happens when I'm around good friends because I will be giving her **** but in a fun way)

I think I know what all this means, I just like to get other peoples insights and views.
Nothing needs to be said really. These things are ALWAYS good. Run forrest, run! :)
 
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