What do YOU want?

[argule]

Ironically enough the last month or so I have been compelled to make a romantic inventory of my life (including sex) to establish what my own behavior patterns are and where they might be lacking in the goal of aquiring the woman that I want.

So I would like to pose a question to all of you men out there (in my age bracket 30+). What I have wanted in a woman has changed considerably over the last 5 years. My needs have changed and my reasons for even being interested in women have changed. This question is NOT just posed for the single guys out there...please everyone pipe in here.

So what do YOU want in a woman?

...and how has it changed for you?

Mine is:

She would be good looking (obvious)

She would be able to stimulate my mind (the appropriate combination of brain and education)



She would know (and be comfortable) who she is reasonably (not to be confused with knowing what she wants)

She would be curteous, respectful, and a "lady" in social situations. In other words she would have a tremendous amount of "class".

She would be a nasty porn queen when privacy permits itself.

Half of the above description regarding sexual receptiveness would include being loving and spiritual.

and above all else she would have to be able to comprehend life and people BEYOND an intuitive sense(that most women have).


Now that dosent describe her completely but...the jist of it is in there.

 

[mrmoe]

Well, I'm a bit younger than 30+. In my mid-20's but I'll take a stab at this question, if that's alright. I guess when I was younger, I would always seek out my opposite (more extroverted than me). While I've aged a bit, I realize that's not something I really want. The times I have been out with girls who fit the extroverted description, have always ended up pretty badly just cuz the fact we weren't compatible. After all those times, I guess it finally hit me that those girls aren't someone I'd want to spend lengthy periods with. So here is my current "want" list:

Pleasant to the eyes. Doesn't have to be drop-dead gorgeous but someone who is well-groomed and has some pride in how she looks.

Intelligence is a must. I won't date girls who aren't able to hold a somewhat engaging conversation. Doesn't always have to be a discussion on philosophy or world politics... just someone who is aware that there is more to life than what they see on MTV or BET.

Someone who knows how to enjoy herself and doesn't restrict herself to trying new things. So, someone who holds similar interests to me.

Confident and conducts herself well in any situation.

I'm probably missing a few things too but those are the tops of my list. Nice question by the way.

 

[argule]

Why do you have problems with exrtoverts? How/why did it end badly?

 

[mrmoe]

The times things ended badly, have usually been because we end up misunderstanding each other. Our personalities clash. They always wonder why I didn't feel like going clubbing or drinking or whatever; I always wonder why they felt the need to every weekend. I know that's not a great example. But its always boiled down to not really 'getting each other' just on a normal level, which eventually led to some mistrust in the relationship. For whatever reason, I just haven't had these types of problems with girls who were more introverted.

I really don't have problems with extroverted people asides this (lots of my friends & family fit the bill), so maybe its just been the girls I've met?

 

[Go West]

This is a great subject. I think it helps men understand what we want from women and in identifying with ourselves.

I've been contemplating (see below) lately that I might have to sacrifice in the looks department in order to find a woman who meets the intellectual stimulation aspect. The alternative to this is to date hot women who have crappy attitudes because they have gotten what they want from men just by being hot.

So, here's my order.

1. Attractive - we each have our own ideas as to what is attractive. Most men are visual and i think thsi will be #1 for most men.

2. Mental connection - we both need to have the same level of intelligence, someone who can make me think and that we can communicate on the same levels and understand and/or agree to disagree.

3. Poise - She must have a sense of class and standards, not requiring it, but, knowing how to act in social settings.

4. Humor - to me the abiltity to see humor at the same levels is huge.

5. Good sense of morals - Most likely obtained from her family. if she has a good family background, her sense of what is right and wrong will be solid. If she has a bad family background, it usually (that means NOT always) means there are problems either in her thnking or her sense of values and morals. I've seen it too many times. Bad family = bad character. usually - ok?

6. Giving and loving - She has to be open to give and receive love anf affection. This seems like a no brainer but many women are emotionally unavailable.

7. Sexual - fill in the blank on your own.

It's best to NEXT a woman when you see signs of her not fitting into your requirments for a partner.

Below - I don't think I'll ever stop looking for the hottest of them all but man the HB's in Southern California are mental!

 

[Ricky]

Guys I met a girl that meets much of my needs and those categories.

The problem is, I think it is still going to fail. I hate to say that but it's headed that way. I'll post about this in another message.

It sucks bad this time guys.

 

[mrmoe]

That's pretty crappy. Sorry to hear that.

 

[TooColdUlrick]

i decided that i'm gonna fukk as many as the below profile as i can, for the next two years. i have a bit of lost time to make up, due to my business obligations over the last 5 years.

and now i will take full advantage of my position, of which some of you here are aware of...

-25 year old hottie, give or take a few

-hot body

-shaved pvssy (MANDATORY)

-college degree

-good sensibility about her

-one who is actually looking for an older (e.g. mature) more experienced man. they're out there in droves.

she gives me sh!t, beyond what is normal, i dump her. i don't need it. i tell them this upfront.

 

[HeimdallThorhammer]

Good Looking.
Independent - especially important.
Very High Sex Drive
Intelligent.
Motivated/Driven/Ambitious - not TV watching couch potato.

MLTR capable.
(I want a few girlfriends in rotation, with backups.)