"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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What do you think you would have done in this situation?

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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The Bat

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If the woman I'm with isn't my wife, sister, mother, daughter, sister-in-law, cousin-sister-who-I-was-close-with, or grandmother; then I'm getting the hell out of dodge.
 

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A woman came up to my two my friends and me in a bar tonight looking questioning at a barstool beside us. Our friend had been sitting there and went to the bathroom. She asked if this friend was male and female. I said "what's the difference" while my one friend answered it's a guy and she said since it's a not a girl it's okay to take the seat.

You think I'm defending someone who thinks of my sex as less deserving of ANYTHING? No, they have abdicated any of these special provisions that they didn't even deserve in the first place.

No. None of them. I'm more likely to charge at the killer than I am to be some dumbass human shield because at least I'll die doing something rather than basically ducking and covering with some dumb notion of righteousness in my head because I duck and covered on top of a girl.
 

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Girlfriend? Hell no. I'd avenge her death by taking out the killer, at best. Most likely I'll just duck.

I wasn't always with that enlightened attitude. I only realised my old way was wrong and stupid after Hilary Clinton showed me the light. A few years ago, Secretary Clinton, surely one of the Greatest Women ever in the history of the West, said this gem:

Women have always been the primary victims of war. Women lose their husbands, their fathers, their sons in combat. Women often have to flee from the only homes they have ever known. Women are often the refugees from conflict and sometimes, more frequently in today’s warfare, victims. Women are often left with the responsibility, alone, of raising the children.
That's the moment I saw the light. By sacrificing my life to protect women, I would be responsible for making them the primary victims and suffer a miserable life.

I heard nothing but cheers from Western women on that statement (you can experiment by reposting that on Facebook and see for yourself), so I was totally assured that ducking for cover in such situations is the right thing to do.

THAT is truly being heroic.
 

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Wow, I can't believe Hillary went there. Pretty insensitive to male suffering.
She might be right that women are the victims of war in that it is usually men who make the decision to go to war, but that isn't what she meant.

I won't belittle these guys for their acts of bravery, however. Maybe you wouldn't do the same, and definitely "chivalry" is an unpopular thing around here. Maybe I don't agree with the underlying "social conditioning" involved. But these guys decided to try to protect someone they loved. Maybe they looked the girl's father in the eyes and said they would take care of his daughter, and figured they had to act out of a sense of honor.

But here's another question:
If some guy much bigger than you came up and starting beating on your girlfriend for no reason, would you step in?
 
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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But here's another question:
If some guy much bigger than you came up and starting beating on your girlfriend for no reason, would you step in?
Without question. I don't make BS commitments. If I am going to commit to a girl, she has become a part of my stead and sphere, and if some dude is going to start messing with that (or literally messing it up) I am not going to tolerate it. I don't believe violence is the best tool for every problem, but it can be used with efficacy.

EDIT - I also don't consider a girlfriend a trivial relationship. A girlfriend is someone I have known long enough and dated long enough and care about sufficiently to say that I will commit my romantic and sexual attentions categorically to her with the expectation of reciprocity. I'm not talking girlfriend in the high school vernacular. Maybe serious LTR would be a better description.
 

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For those still interested in this, here's a link to a story about a guy who did run off and leave his girlfriend behind. If you check out the comments, there is page after page of him being decried as a coward and a loser. Of course a big reason for this is that he also left behind his four year old and four month old children. The girlfriend helped get them out and took a bullet in the process.

There are also several comments about the wisdom of taking children that young to a midnight showing.

http://news.blogs.cnn.com/2012/07/20/couple-who-saw-movie-with-baby-to-marry/?iref=allsearch
 
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