What do you talk about on a date?

[Jariel]

I've been on a number of dates lately and with some girls, the conversation flows naturally. I tend to ask about their work, their passions and interests, then pick up on points and get them to elaborate and contribute my own related conversation.

I have a few regular anecdotes I tell, some of which get a lot of laughs. They vary from bad date stories to old childhood memories. I also have a few deeper ones that often captures their interest.

Sometimes I'll just ask them random questions, like what superpower they would choose or something fun like that.

And of course, there's the sexual escalation topics. I'll start out subtle, with innuendos and depending on how they respond, I'll raise the heat more and try to describe some of the things I'd like to do - never direct or vulgar though.

But I was just wondering what you guys talk about when you're on a date. How do you keep conversation flowing? What topics or questions get enthusiastic responses? What kind of stories or anecdotes do you share?

 

[GotED?]

She should be doing 80% of the talking, and you the other 10% asking more questions to keep her in robotic talking mode with other 10% repackaging what she said and summarizing it back to her (so be a good listener).

You can observe and learn a lot about a woman just by doing this , getting her motormouth going.

* if she talks non stop that shows self entitlement and self centered behavior

* if she equally asks you questions exchanging ideas then she is interested in you and not just an attention whhorre.

* the depth of how personal she speaks in the conversations also shows her trust and emotional closeness to you. If you are just talking about shallow superficial topics then there isn't much rapport being built.

The key is the woman does the talking, very simple. The less you share about who you really are the more mysterious you will stay longer in her hamster brain.

Exodus

 

[CharlieCW]

First of all the usual questions for getting to know the girl, but try to make it so she can respond with something long, or try asking her opinion about something (women like to give advices/opinions). Avoid at all costs questions of yes/no, they always make the chat a bit boring.

Avoid like:

You: "So, do you work all morning?"
She: "Yes"

Instead try:

You: "What's the thing you most hate/love about your work"
She: (a long response)

Now on the basis of what she says, you can comment on something else. The point is to be a great listener, so just relax and let the conversation flow. And it's ok to have some silences, it even can be a good chance for some physical contact or to change the topic.

If you are still nervous, try these tip, which is useful for life in general.

=Conversation hooker=
1.- Listen to what the person is saying
2.- Grab some clue words in the conversation
3.- Comment about it

And like the other bro said, don't reveal much about yourself, if will make you more interesting and make her think about you.

 

[VikingKing]

Sounds like you do pretty well. Mostly keep the conversation focused on her, and just get her to talk about something that will make her face light up. Keep it simple, but I reiterate sounds like your doing good.

 

[Vice]

I usually talk about sex as early as I can. As well as what is going on around the area that we're in.

Then again, I don't really go on "dates".

I haven't had any issues of what to talk about during dates; it's all natural. I'll do most of the talking initially to ease any nervousness on her part, and then let her pick up. I'll also try to steer the conversation towards sex as well.

If you approach talking about sex in a manner that you're comfortable with, she will too. You also need to demonstrate that you're not judgmental about sex and that it's a casual part of life, like working out.