So pimp its scary
Master Don Juan
Seriously guys, everyone is always worried about the 'what do I say' here or there, or in whatever circumstance.
This isn't exactly common knowledge, but the words you use to get your point across really only matter in a debate where you have to listen to all the words to make a counterpoint, but even then.
So, 7% of the words you say are actually absorbed by the person listening to those words.
23% of any understanding comes from the tone of voice that you use when you say the words. So like in our debate, even someone that has his words bang on, if they don't have the passion and belief to back up what they are saying, the voice tone won't be right to win the debate.
The last factor that makes people understand what you are communicating is in the body language that you are using. This makes up for more than half of understanding, 60% to be more exact. So, if the guy on the debate podium is slumped over or just standing there like a floppy dild.o even if he's got his voice and tone right will still likely lose the debate, especially if the other guy is competing on 'all cylinders'.
Have you ever wondered why people talking on the phone still make all the same gestures as though they were both talking in person? It comes down to reinforcement.
Hell, if an alien culture were to come down and watch the people of earth (italy most specifically because they are gesture happy), they would look at the italians language as being a language of gestures... they wouldn't likely realize that the words even play an effect.
All this to say, that 90% of what you say to a woman has ALREADY been said before the first word even comes out of your mouth.
That's why it is seriously too bad that all we have to go by is the text. Try an experience, next time you are at the bar look around, try to find those guys that are approaching women. You can spot the ones that are clueless compared to someone that knows what's going on a mile away. And if me, as a man and less apt to read someones body language can spot these things out... the women can see it twice as good.
I know that this is the thing that is holding alot of you back, but you have to understand the body language to really know what's going on. The words, the intro, and any specific lines that you use will only be understood to a small extent.
For those that have seen the movie swingers, did you ever wonder WHY when anyone is out to game on some chick that they never even show the words, but it does SHOW the two (or 4) talking. I'll tell you right now, that you were meant to WATCH how he moves his body more than anything else.
Get you're body language and voice tone together in a congruent way, and the words that you say have little impact on what is going on.
This isn't exactly common knowledge, but the words you use to get your point across really only matter in a debate where you have to listen to all the words to make a counterpoint, but even then.
So, 7% of the words you say are actually absorbed by the person listening to those words.
23% of any understanding comes from the tone of voice that you use when you say the words. So like in our debate, even someone that has his words bang on, if they don't have the passion and belief to back up what they are saying, the voice tone won't be right to win the debate.
The last factor that makes people understand what you are communicating is in the body language that you are using. This makes up for more than half of understanding, 60% to be more exact. So, if the guy on the debate podium is slumped over or just standing there like a floppy dild.o even if he's got his voice and tone right will still likely lose the debate, especially if the other guy is competing on 'all cylinders'.
Have you ever wondered why people talking on the phone still make all the same gestures as though they were both talking in person? It comes down to reinforcement.
Hell, if an alien culture were to come down and watch the people of earth (italy most specifically because they are gesture happy), they would look at the italians language as being a language of gestures... they wouldn't likely realize that the words even play an effect.
All this to say, that 90% of what you say to a woman has ALREADY been said before the first word even comes out of your mouth.
That's why it is seriously too bad that all we have to go by is the text. Try an experience, next time you are at the bar look around, try to find those guys that are approaching women. You can spot the ones that are clueless compared to someone that knows what's going on a mile away. And if me, as a man and less apt to read someones body language can spot these things out... the women can see it twice as good.
I know that this is the thing that is holding alot of you back, but you have to understand the body language to really know what's going on. The words, the intro, and any specific lines that you use will only be understood to a small extent.
For those that have seen the movie swingers, did you ever wonder WHY when anyone is out to game on some chick that they never even show the words, but it does SHOW the two (or 4) talking. I'll tell you right now, that you were meant to WATCH how he moves his body more than anything else.
Get you're body language and voice tone together in a congruent way, and the words that you say have little impact on what is going on.