"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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what do women want out of online dating?

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TillTheEndOfTime said:
I have messaged more girls than I can count and they ALL followed this pattern to the letter. I can tell by the time frame between when I sent my message, when she viewed my profile, how many times she viewed my profile and when/if she messaged me back.

The above pattern was virtually independent of whatever message I used.

If a hot girl messages you, would you be like: "oh she's a super model, but her message was just "hi"....booooring. NEXT!" :crackup: :crackup: :crackup: :crackup: Give me a break right? You think girls are that much different?

All of this is true in my experience as well, however I have ignored 2 women that messaged me that were hot, because they seemed boring and I didn't want to waste time with them.

I've had my fair share of 8's, it can be a lot of work to keep them happy, so I weigh that too.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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